Fur-ball

Hi

I have ADHD and I have no trouble staying in a long term relationship (two 2-year ones), but I do have trouble finding someone that keeps me coming back. Other than the basic needs (nice, trusting,etc.. ), I need a guy that is adventurous and does not gush over me. I have had a guy ask me to marry him and I said no. The spark was no longer there and a life with him seemed boring.

Instead of serious relationship at the moment, I have a secret relationship with a guy in my class. I am a Civil Engineering student and have been with the same class of 30 for the last 2 years. I dont talk with my lover much at school, but we give each other looks in school when no one is looking and we sneak behind the lockers and kiss. . you get the picture. I really have enjoyed it and probably will do the same with this person in September. It is exciting and fun.

It is not that I do not want to get married, because it is something I definitely hope is on the agenda. It is just a matter of meeting the right person that is compatible to my personality. Sometimes I think someone else with ADD would be an ultimate match, but I could only imagine that the house would be a mess and that the adventures would be too extreme.

Being alot more attentive during the first part of the relationship can happen to any guys, but since he is ADHD, I would say that he would be more prone to this. and YES.. I do think people with ADD can be attentive and remain faithful to one person. I am a multi-dater when I am looking for a the right guy, but when I do become girlfriend statis I do not cheat. ADD does not change someone's morals and beliefs.

Anyways... take care and I wish the two of you the best of luck,

Ocean