Amy2838

I really wanted to avoid medications. I wanted to avoid a stigma. I hate the thought of all that. She isn't hyper at all (then again, neither am I) but she has always been the daydreamer. Even when she was a baby we would joke that she's off in "Heather Land".

If she is missing recess and after-school social activities, believe me, she WILL be stigmatized. Since you have a family history of ADD, you are probably already familiar with the inattentive-type that does not produce hyperactivity. If not, please research this, and the long-term affect it has on girls. (BTW, I think perfectionism might be a symptom) Of course, your daughter may just be having trouble adjusting to her school environment, or there may be other things going on that you don't know about. Even if you don't get your children tested, I would get a book on how to help your kids manage their problems. It is especially important for them to be socially accepted. And they'll need to have honed these skills before they are in high school and college, or their grades could drop. I was an A student in 2nd grade. By middle school I was slightly above average, and in high school it was a struggle to maintain average and I had NO friends. College was such a burden I hated to get out of bed in the mornings. I wish I had been diagnosed and treated (not necessarily with medication) as a child, 'cause I'm kind of messed up as an adult. I'm having to learn things I should have learned when I was 7, like how to make decisions...how to talk to people without being wierd...how to actually finish something that I start. Please help your daughter AND your son, because these things can so easily go un-noticed until it's too late. Well I guess it's never too late, but MAN I wish I could do it all over again, knowing what I know now about ADD...and I'd start over in about the second grade. By the way...2 sets of twins???? Wow, bravo! How do you do it? And with ADD, it must be tough.