cowgirl1

Does anyone have an older son that you have had problems with? If there has been an improvement with your adult child,would you mind sharing?
I'll begin about 14 years back when he was 20 and constantly causing himself,family and friends problems,he has had 2 failed marriages,has 3 children that he has nothing to do with,in the past 2 years my husband and i no longer take him in,because he steals,lies,loafs,smashes things,cusses like you wouldn't believe and does whatever he pleases,since he is not allowed to live here any more,his friends have evicted him,none of his friends want to be around him,because of his constant mooching and picking fights....he is presently living with a guy,not a friend....Adam gave him until August 1st to move out. My son has had numerous vehicles in the past 2 years,starting with a brand new truck that he abused and did not make regular payments on,so Ford Motor Credit came and picked it up,NOT TO MENTION THERE WAS A CO-SIGNER.....he works as a painter now and then,he knows he has to get in as many hrs as possible to try and get ahead,but doesn't,his previous bosses have been so good to him and given him a vehicle that he can make payments on,but obviously has messed up on that also, the trucks were taken back...he has had warrants out on him ever since i can remember for non child support,not having car insurance,driving with expired tags.....a few weeks ago he sold a vehicle that wasn't even paid for,i believe it was around $500...he decided to quit his job and lay on it until the money was spent,then he calls his father and gives him a pitty party about his sorry life and his dad feels sorry for him,my husband is 64 years old and our son's actions are not easy to live with.....For 12 years we have helped him, but to no avail,he has been homeless a couple of times in the past 2 years,has admitted he mixes his own drugs. We do not have insurance on him to see a Dr. and get annalyzed,however he has been taken to the Pavillion,only to tell the Dr's there was nothing wrong with him,he just got drunk and had a fight with his girlfriend,he was sent a bill for $800,which he has not paid.. Ken was sharing an apartment with my younger son at the time,my son called the police and had him picked up,because he was screaming,smashing up the house,also the tv we gave him,hung on the ceiling fan and tore it out of the ceiling,which my son had to pay for when he moved out. There is so much more to tell,but this is what were basically up against...we are morally and financially devistated with ken....Don't know what to do any more...He refuses to go to a Dr.and get medication...I have dreams of an officer visiting us in the middle of the night giving us news that our son is dead. If anyone has any ideas on what to do here,please post. THANK'S FOR LISTENING.... Very stressed out Mother I have 2 other sons,one older and one younger that are doing great and having a wonderful life.