Sylvia224

Hi prada,
I am also so sorry to hear that. It's almost eerie how similar my experience was. I was also on the b.c. patch, but I took it off on the wrong week because I did not want to get my period while on my honeymoon in Hawaii. Anyway, against formidible odds I got pregnant, which my husband and I were surprised by, but happy. Near the end of my first trimester we discovered that the pregnancy was anembryonic, and I was given the choice to wait for a natural miscarriage or have a D&C done in the hospital. Long story short, but basically I got to do both. Not a fun experience, I know. Especially the emotional impact of it is very difficult.
Ritalin has not been proven safe to take during pregnancy, but the fact is, you were on the patch and should not have gotten pregnant at all, so this is not your fault. You could not have been very far along, changes are the fetus did not implant properly, or perhaps, like me, you had a growing fetal support system with no fetus. So please do not beat yourself up about this, it's hard enough as it is, I know. There are about a million ways for a miscarriage to happen. My doctor says when you look at all of the things that have to come together, it's a miracle anyone has babies at all.
The best thing is to be prepared to become pregnant, and you have plenty of time. I've worked out a system with my doctor and my husband, and I feel not as afraid and in control. You may have been part of that 1%, but remember that the accuracy rate is only for people who take it exactly as directed. That is easier with the patch, since you only have to change once a week, but if it fell off, or you changed it a day late, etc. that accuracy rate falls significantly.
Again, I'm sorry. I know it's hard, but perhaps it just was not meant to be this time.