I wanted to know if any one else has had this problem that I am about to explain. Any advice is would be great. sorry for the novel but here is a little history first.
When my son was in second grade his school teachers and counselor were very pushy on me taking him to a doctor and getting him on Medicine for ADHD. He had all the usual signs, inatentative, blurting out, can't stay in his seat and ect. I was at the time so against medication that I made the school take several test that are free to parents if the school is asked to administer them. Such as accademic, MDT, IQ and so on. After all the test the school psycologist and the teachers myself all met to asses the results. They found my son to not be ADHD at all, what they did find is that he had at the time an IQ of a thirteen year old and hyper active at age 8. I took him to the doctor as well and with all the findings from the school and his assestment he as well found him not to be ADHD. So we went to counceling with an ADHD specialist councelor to help us help my son. My son also went to counceling himself for about a year to learn tools to help him cope with all of his hypersctivness and inatentivness. All the charts, rewarding planns seemed to work for the first 3 months and then we had to tweek the plann a little as he got used to them. After about 6 months nothing seemed to work. We didn't stop trying though.
Well we have delt with alot of school problems since and homework issues, teachers yelling at him for being to annoying and changing classes because teachers could not deal with him( not that I blame them I get frustrated too). He is not violent he is loud, disruptive, inatentive and hyper. His fifth grade was a good relativley but sixth things started to start all over again. Now he is in seventh grade and we are back to teachers yelling at him, calling me and telling me that he is blurting out, disruptive, inatentive and wont do his homework and wanting me to take him to a child psycologist. in the same sentence they also tell me that he is a nice and funny kid with lots of potential. So once again i took him to the doctor and the school and myslef did that wonderful assestment test to see if he is ADHD and to no avail he is not. They are thinking about another IQ test. In the mean time i have started him on an all natural herbal medicine that is called attend and it seems to help with his hyperness, inatentiveness, and allowing him to be able to finish a project. I guess my question is can a child have all these symptoms of ADHD but not be able to get a diagnosis. What could it be? The doctor has looked into all things it can be and the only thing they can come back with is his hyperness and very intelligent. HELP PLEASE. frustrated after dealing with this for 12 years.
I am ADHD and all 3 of my kids are as well (2 boys/1 girl).
From my own experience and what I have learned myself to help me & my kids cope:
Kids can have just attention deficit (ADD), attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD), or just hyperactivity disorder (HD). Some schools try to label kids and they don't take the time to really look at the child's needs. All 3 of my kids are well above average as far as schoolwork but they have never had an actual IQ test.
As an example, my daughter learned to read in K, it was too much stress for me to teach her everything before she started school like some places think we should. She had a wonderful teacher who understood she was ADHD and we wanted to keep her of meds as long as possible. In 1st grade, she informed me she was moved away from the other kids and she would talk about getting a "sad" face at school for acting up. At the 1st conference, the teacher and I discussed her problems and the teacher asked permission to make an unusual request to the principal in regards to my daughter but she wanted to be sure I was fine with it before asking. I took my daughter with me to the conference and all 3 of us discussed together when she acted up & what they were doing in class. A pattern showed she acted up during reading and she stated it was too easy. The solution for my daughter was she ended up going to a 4th grade classroom for reading and even tested with them. The tests were not just simple answers, like a person's name but also covered reading comprehension. She never score lower than a 90 on any of the tests. The SOL testing showed her reading at 4th grade level and by the time the spring tests came around, she was now reading on a 5th grade level. She was also moved back to tables with the other kids. We placed her on meds this year and even though the teacher is aware of her ADHD & medication, she does not have any leeway and expects my daughter to behave 100%, just like the other kids. But this is an older teacher more set in her ways.
Your son may only have hyperactivity disorde. In this case, you & He will need to look for ways to help him cope & adjust to a schedule so he stays on track. Schedules helped me a lot, especially in high school to cope with my ADHD.
My son has ADHD and has been thru virtually everything you have described. It is challenging to have such a child. You come to the point where you dread hearing from the school.
I strongly urge you to consider ADHD medication such as Adderall or Strattera. What you describe seems clearly, clearly, ADHD. My child's testing for ADHD took an entire afternoon. On the second day of testing, we learned he also has several learning disablities including dyslexia. This was masked because he has a high I.Q. In your case, I don't understand why they keep testing your son's I.Q. It seems irrelevan. High or low, he can still have ADHD.
Perhaps you are from a small town? Perhaps the folks doing the testing do not specialize in ADHD or learning disabilities. I suggest locating an ADHD specialist in an urban area to have appropriate testing. If you cannot do this, then please just try the medication.
If the medication does not work, you have virtually eliminated ADHD as a problem, and you will have to proceed further with diagnostic testing. If it does work, then your child is finally receiving the help he desperately needs.
We tried 'natural" remedies and all were worthless. There is no shame in prescription medication. Please consider.
With aloha. Hang in there; you and your child are not alone.
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