tonymc

I'm 35 and that has pleagued me as far back as I can remember. I just get overwhelmed and anxious when there is a lot of folks around and I wear down quickley and stop functioning. Having ADD I have problems following conversations anyway and groups make it worse. Probaly the extra effort at switching and comprehending is what wears me out.

Over the years, not liking the overwhelming anxiety and worn feeling, I naturally and not really concious of it then, avoided social situations, large groups. I want to join "the companionship" so bad but it never fails. I hold my own at first and shortly I burn out and then in conversations I start missing key things or stop comprehending simple stuff like punch lines or that I'm even being addressed. It embarases me and sometimes to a panic and I don't like it. Hence, I avoid those situations.

It's also obvious to others (something that I've just recently found out) that they see me come in with energy and next time they see me, I'm "dumbed out". I wonder how many folks through out my life have wondered what I was on or why I was so "moody". Being 35 and just making that "revelation" has really weighed on me.

My wife is a real extravert and great with social things. I've been able to socialize by her side in a thankful way. She picks up where I fall short and understands when I'm "out". Your son may be playing it out as a non-issue, but I feel from personal experience only that it is or will be later in life.

I've had so many negative experiences and I'm sure that has supported my anti-sociality. If they could have some good expieriences, that would probably help.

I hope this offers a new insight to your concern.