"chatterboxing" and "normal" conversing - ADD / ADHD Message Board

nightowl2 · 01-13-2003, 08:01 PM

Hi!
I just want to know what is the norm' on talking to people? I have sometimes bothered people because of my non-stop talking and was even doing this fairly recently. What is the normal amount of talking one is supposed to do? I just thought that my talking was "normal",but, EVERYBODY" including my family has commented on my NON-STOP incessant ramblings. Help!!!
I am not aware that I do it.I take effexor, at this time, and it does calm me down, however, I still eat a lot of sugar as I love it, as well as some caffiene. Call me at times a "Caffiend".But, I actually don't eat that much, just sometimes.But, I really do not think that I am THAT BAD! However, my family and friends do.(I also have A.D.D.)I tend to really drive them nuts! I have actually tried to change myself so that people will like me or get along with me better, and you know what? People said that they missed my "silliness". They thought that I was too quiet! I am damned if I do and damned if I don't,you know? What do you all feel about this? Throw me a line or two and let me know? Nightowl2

Jennita · 01-14-2003, 12:29 PM

Ha Ha that's funny. Seems the people you hang around with is a tough crowd to please! What you have is what used to be referred to as "the gift of gab"; now apparentely it as seen as yet another disorder.

Weeell, what can you do...how about letting the silliness loose maybe just once a day and then control it the rest of the day? I don't know...maybe get a sales job or customer service job; any job that your "gift" may actually be in demand so you can let loose and just be you!

Gingerwoman · 01-15-2003, 04:41 AM

This might not sound that helpful but it is true that at the end of the day you can only be yourself. I could kind of understand where your friends are coming from by your post because a few times you went off on a tangent which you didn't fully explain and then went on to another thing.
There is a book you can buy on Amazon.com called "What does everybody else know that I don't." about social skills and ADD which you could have a look at but ultimately I don't think you should worry about it to much. It is who you are and would be very hard to change and I'm sure it does have some positive benefits.
Really talkative people are often quite popular and entertaining. It may be hard if people are *****y about it but your real friends won't look down on you for it and other people can just kiss your ***.
Good luck.

addvocate · 01-31-2003, 02:48 AM

It is good to approach conversation as a give and take.Some of my favorite people to talk to are those that make you feel "hugged" everytime you see them. The questions are genuine and concern for others. They may dominate the conversation - but the topic is genuine concern for others. It is quite boring to have someone monopolize conversation & not be able to put in 2 cents. Maybe make a commitment to NOT talk about yourself. Talk, but spend more time learning about the other person & your shared likes, hopes, dreams. It is good to be at ease with others, but interactively!!!