God love the ADHD child - ADD / ADHD Message Board

momhopeseternal · 03-17-2003, 01:57 PM

My 9 year old son was diagnosed with Adhd a few months ago and we have been riding the medication merry-go-round trying to find the right combo for him. We are on Adderall 10mg at the moment but will be increasing it to 15mg in the morning.

Anyway, I had to tell you about this great kid of mine. When he first started taking meds,(strattera) he would come home and say Mom I feel so much smarter today. But the teachers remarks were not encouraging. So we increased his meds. And again, Mom I feel so much smarter today, I finished my work on time. But again the teachers comments were not what we had hoped for.

Well long story short, After several weeks of my husband and myself seeing the great changes in our son when we switched him to Adderall, we started wondering about his teacher and what she expected from him. The school he attends is a AAA school and an educationally advanced school. But we learned that she is not trained to teach students like our son.

We set our son down and explained it all to him and he smiled and said, don't worry Mom and Dad. I will be a teacher someday and I can make a difference for kids like me. It didn't matter what the teacher was telling him everyday, he had enough faith in himself to know his own self worth.

So God love these ADHD kids that face this disorder on a daily basis and come out the real winners. My hats off to the parents and children who struggle the same way we do and never give up when the ignorance around us is overwelming.

Words from a proud Mom.

susgan · 03-17-2003, 05:49 PM

I will say that I agree that all of our children are special. They are bright children, just under appreciated by the school systems. So keep faith in them and who knows they may be the next Albert Einstien. They called him ignorant, kicked him out of school.

We went to the optometrist that deals with vision therapy today, we don't have all the results but the news was EXCELLENT so far!! I am the most hopeful I have been in weeks. And He passed his latest S.S test with a "C", where the last 3 were low "F". I read the entire chapter while we discussed it as we went along. It is worth it to see that smile of success, and eager to show you a test score than to be once aagin depressed because of a failed grade.

You all are doing a great job as parents. Being on here, sharing all you know, throwing out ideas for each other shows that about you all.

Good luck to all

Susan

mstreye · 03-18-2003, 04:17 AM

Thanks for this compassionate article. Sometimes we can forget that important fact.

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roadmap · 03-19-2003, 05:57 AM

We have tried to "coach" our son's teacher to "praise the progress, not the result" as a means of encouraging him and keeping his motivation up. She reacts to him as if he is lazy or unintelligent. Often teachers don't realize how hard our children work to overcome/compensate for their disabilities.

On another note, have you checked the library for books on tape for your son to whom you read his text books. Many libraries have full textbooks on tape and if he is strongly more auditory in his learning style, the tapes may help him feel that he is in control of hois learning. We bought our oldest son a small speaker with a long cord from Sharper Image to put under his pillow so he can listen to tapes while lying down (actually to help him relax and go to sleep) which may be a relaxing way to "study" as well. If we think this is stressful for us, as parents, can you imagine being a child and having to deal with it. God bless the child. On the other side of the coin, those who can grow through this, and overcome adversity so young, will be awesome and compassionate adults!

momhopeseternal · 03-19-2003, 09:39 AM

I thank those who offer a nice reply to my posting. To those who have different veiws than mine, thanks for offering your opinion. We all have a right to them. I won't go into God's perfect plan and the veiw that the drugs are evil. My son is a christian, as I am myself, maybe not perfect christians, but christian still the same. In my eyes, my child is perfect, a bit high strung, but perfect to me. But as I see it, if my son didn't need the help of a drug to concentrate, then that pill would not be available for his use. God gave us free will in all things and the right to choose what is best for ourselves and our offspring. I thank God daily for both my sons. And I thank God daily for the people who are trying to help my child and others like him be the best they can be. Whether you believe or not is your individual choice. So please respect mine for my child and don't tell me that what I give my child is evil. The true evil in this is the fact that children must suffer at all. Does trying to ease his troubles and strife by any way possible make me bad? Have your opinion on this subject, but don't try to tear a person down for the veiw that their child will somehow change the course of the future by what he has to go through now.

Words from a proud Mom.