undiscouraged

My husband has adhd...i'm not sure if it can cover his feelings of love and make him believe it's not there or if it really isn't there. he has changed a lot and definitely not in a good way. he says he doesn't care about anything at all, but yet he says he loves me...i've been working on things and i asked him if he would work on himself after i've finished becoming the person i would like to be and his response was idk. that's almost always the response i get from him. for the first time in a while, he held me while we slept. i could actually feel the love he had for me by the way he would hold me, rub & hold my had, and kissing me gently. with feeling all of those emotions from him, i managed to fall in love with him a little more. i haven't yet talked to him about the feelings from last night, however, i did ask him if it's a bad thing that i had fallen in love with him more and he said idk. i just don't know if i should listen to what he says about his feelings b/c he wants to "find himself" or if i should go by what i had felt....any advice?