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Old 05-11-2012, 10:49 PM   #1
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Roommates and boundaries

I have a roommate who seems to not have any common sense consideration when it comes to co-habitation.

My current situation is a recurring problem and I just don't know what to do about it. I have ADHD and I try to be on top of things when it comes to sharing a space with others. I really try my best to be considerate of my roommates personal space and belongings. I expect the same courtesies.

I have one major gripe...if a person touches my stuff, in my personal area...they should put it back and I should not have to repeat myself. I don't mind sharing, but I think my roommate might be a criminal moocher. She borrows a little bit of everything...it doesn't seem like a big deal but I swear she is beginning to depend on me more and more.

Today, she threw in a few items with my laundry and it aggravated me. I told her to wash her own clothes on her own time and she asked to bum detergent. I might be nitpicking, but I feel like I am babysitting. This roommate dips into everyone else's stuff...all my other roommates complain, but no one wants to say anything.

I didn't sign up to be a mom...I don't even have kids. I don't want to be the bad guy...but I swear this is not good for my ADHD.

Does anyone else have roommate woes?

 
Old 05-12-2012, 07:46 AM   #2
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Re: Roommates and boundaries

Unfortunately, a difficult roommate situation can happen to anyone, ADHD or not. I've only heard your side of the story, but it sounds like you didn't create this problem.

It is difficult for some of us to handle interpersonal woes. You might have to lead your household in addressing this person more firmly, or even asking her not to remain.

 
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Re: Roommates and boundaries

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Unfortunately, a difficult roommate situation can happen to anyone, ADHD or not. I've only heard your side of the story, but it sounds like you didn't create this problem.

It is difficult for some of us to handle interpersonal woes. You might have to lead your household in addressing this person more firmly, or even asking her not to remain.
I rent a house with 2-3 other people and we all have different schedules. The only time we are all on the same page is when we schedule a time slot to hang out, chat and have fun with mutual friends. I set up a weekly laundry schedule to discuss at our next gathering. If all goes well, we will agree to scheduled washing machine privileges. That way everyone gets to do laundry in a timely manner regardless of work/school schedule changes. If they miss their time slot...too bad.

I just hate feeling like the bad guy.

 
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