Re: Concern about ADHD with my children
I really don't think that medicating preschoolers is generally a good idea. It's hard to even diagnose conclusively in a child younger than 7, because ADHD looks so much like normal preschooler behavior!
Once she gets a little older, the question of whether to medicate should be addressed again. The important question is, would the medicine help HER? Not the teachers, her. If she is really struggling and unhappy in school, and meds might help, maybe you should try it. I know I was miserably unhappy at age 6-7, because I really wanted to follow the rules and be a good girl, but I couldn't. But don't put her on medication just for the teachers' sake.
I was diagnosed finally at 19, took meds through college and saw my grades skyrocket. Now I don't take any meds for ADHD, and I do all right.
Whether you medicate or not, definitely look into parenting techniques for ADHD children. Now, ADHD is NOT caused by bad parenting, it's caused by a brain difference. However, ADHD children with a stable home environment and parents that have high expectations but also keep in mind their child's challenges turn out a lot better than children who get either no discipline or too much.