Sandra421----are you o.k.???? - Addiction & Recovery Message Board

lisaaahubb · 08-12-2003, 06:00 AM

Sandra---didn't see you post in a couple of days. I was wondering if you and your children were o.k. and if your husband finally went into detox. Just wanted to let you know i was thinking about you!
Hope you are well
LISA

sandra421 · 08-12-2003, 08:50 AM

hi, hubby lost it over weekend, pulled modem out of the wall and cops came and told him to leave for a day or 2. he has agreed to counseling, on an outpatient level as of right now, he is feeling very bad today as he has had no drugs for 2 days now and withdrawal is rearing its ugly head. his boss told him he would get a camp for the two of them for a couple weeks and he will help him get through this, hubby told me this morning he thinks he may do that because he feels he is going to be nasty and doesn't want to be nasty to me anymore-tomorrow i have appointment with drug abuse counselor and he wants to go with me, then if he can detox outpatient we will know, i feel he should be in hospital but i cannot force him and i feel any counseling is a start, he states he doesn;t want to be on drugs and knows for his family he has to quit, he is quite mad at me that i let his family know what is going on but hell how much more mad can he get at me, i saw the devil himself in him, wait til he hears everything he has done, i told him if anybody deserves to be mad its me for the horror he has put this family through. so i guess tomorrow will tell me if he is serious about getting well,thanks for your kind words, i would have gotten on over the weekend but like i said he took the modem out and left with it.

Hopefortoday · 08-12-2003, 05:55 PM

Sandra, I'm glad your husband may be seeking help. I hope the best for your relationship with him and hope you take care of yourself as well!

sandra421 · 08-12-2003, 06:54 PM

so far so good today, he is hurting big time, we start counseling tomorrow and i am hoping that he can start on some meds to ease the pain, we have been talking about this weekend and his memory is foggy and he says he doesn;t remember anything from last thursday on, he was popping ativan and oxys like candy, i hope he can do this because i never want to live through the misery again, i don;t know that i can.
hugs

Hopefortoday · 08-12-2003, 07:02 PM

Good luck tomorrow with the counseling. I felt really left out when my husband started getting clean. But I learned that he had to focus 100% on his sobriety and that the work on our relationship would have to wait until he was stable. It also hurt that I couldn't "fix" him even though I had tried soooo many times!

I hope you are able to find some peace because I know the pain you are feeling. Take care of yourself and may God bless you.