Please help with partner's addiction - Addiction & Recovery Message Board

kitkat70 · 05-24-2004, 08:40 PM

Hi all,
My questions are: am I wrong for being concerned?

EllieKay · 05-24-2004, 09:27 PM

kitkat, you are right to be concerned, because your significant other is using
pharmaceutical pain killers to mask his other problems.
he will never admit to having any other problems with addiction, depression, or cocaine --- DON'T BELIEVE IT.
your boyfriend and you need therapy. he needs therapy because he's an addict, and maybe something else (sociopath - whatever they call it these days). you need therapy because you have already realized that there's something wrong, but you have done nothing yet to fix it. for example: demand he go to therapy, or, leave the relationship. this is YOUR life. how much of this can you put up with? you decide.

kitkat70 · 05-24-2004, 09:52 PM

Thanks for your reply.

Twist Of Fate! · 05-25-2004, 01:17 AM

BTW, your "other" isnt a "sociopath" if he has an issue with drug addiction,

I think you meant something else Ellie?

sadsister · 05-25-2004, 05:40 AM

Kitkat-
Do you care about this person?
Do you want to help?
Did he start using painkillers for legitimate pain-or fun?Sorry w/ all the questions- but need more info-4 pills in pretty lowball-but still a habit-if he got dependant cos of real pain-thats differant than just using to get high-unfortunately vikes/oxys/opiates in general are so addictive-anyone Will get hooked regardless-if you take them consistently.
Addicts are real feeling human beings-just like non-using individuals-they need to be treated w/ respect and compassion-because-they are still here-real and alive-most use drugs to push away depression/boredom/low-self esteem-etc..there is always something deeper-thats revealed when an addict comes to terms w/ their addiction-
Therapy/counseling/AA/NA-addictionologists that provide meds to "maintain"-addicts w/ replacement drugs-etc are several options for getting clean.
But first-one must admit there is a problem-do the drugs effect work/homelife/relationships???If you answer-yes-then its a problem.
If he uses it to combat his need for cocaine-he is substituting one drug for another(classic addict)...
Id approach him for a sit down-discuss..talk to him see what he says-
let us know-
If you don't see signs of improvement-or if you feel like you are unhappy the way things are going-maybe counseling could help.
Good luck!
Heather