Hi There Im a 21 year old male and have a drink problem, not a problem as in I drink everyday and that i need to. I usually just drink at weekends but when i drink i drink, I end up taking my clothes off on a night out or singing loudly on a bus home myself or fighting 3 or more people, my mates think im just crazy but it doesn't happen to them, apparently i went into a toilet with a girl and done it unprotected with a mates girlfriend but I know i never i know that they are on the wind up here, but sometimes i can't remember what i do although id remember something like this most of the other stuff will stay blank, I will wake up the next morning and feel like **** and wonder why i ever do it, I spend 150 pound on drink if i go out...I have also took coke a number of times too but that has stopped and the only reason i took it was because i was wrecked on alcohol. I smoke dope but its one thing I enjoy, dope has the opposite effect on me from alcohol, it makes me cheery happy great to get on with I love to play my guitar and listen to my songs and smoke dope, but when i drink alcohol I just do something crazy and its all bad...A thought occured to me today that I should give it up totally i really do enjoy a nice chilled beer but even if i had one say friday would it lead to more?..
Has anyone else ever experienced this because i love to socialise and my mates will always be at the pub but I know if i keep it up something will get me soon like A girl phones me to say she is pregnant, or five guys beat me up or something, I know that this might be the way im going...Any thoughts please because they would really be helpful.
When you drink alcohol and have black outs and you know you behave strangely then it is time to realize that getting help is a must. Why get help? Trust me I am a recovering addict - you name it and I have done it. Alcohol though was different for me because once I quit drinking I realized how ashamed I felt for some of the things I did or didn't do. Thank God my consequences were internal (no Drinking and Driving arrests) but I really started to hate myself the more I drank.
I can only tell you my experience and hope that you may consider AA or get an evaluation done. Risky behavior and life threatening diseases are out and when we drink we completely throw caution to the wind. Take care of yourself - there is life after alcohol!!!!
Yeah I feel ashamed of some things i have done, But when my mates said that about my mates girlfriend he doesn't know they said it Yet...And the fact is..I did'nt do anything with her i can remember that much but just for the fact that everyone thinks I did. Did I tell them i did for a joke?..was it Stupidity?..Or are they winding me up but its just the fact that I don't know how this got out..Or how I ripped all my clothes off in the pub or how i got into a fight with 3 blokes outside who would probably kick my head in if they seen me again it has occured to me. Why bother?. I wouldn't even be suprised if a few mates don't like me coz of it but Your right there's life after alcohol and I think ive got to get my head sorted and just chop it out..Ive always had a bit of a screw loose at times and also felt depressed other times but I think alcohol is the cause for it..I really enjoy it until the following day i wish i hadn't...Im too embarresed to even see a doctor because of it or go to AA. I know I sound like an idiot.
Number 1 cause if alcoholism is untreated depression. As far as AA you can remain anonymous and just know that you would be in the company of people who understand. I was terrified to go - it was what saved my ***.
At the age of 21, you are very wise to see that alcohol is doing a number on your head. I know people in their 50's and beyond that refuse to admit that drinking is a way to escape pain, whether it be emotional or physical. Problem is...the next day, the pain is still there.
It is not a sign of weakness to admit that you are helpless to refuse when it comes to a substance that helps you forget for the moment. You are human and that is normal. My 17 year old son has a very real problem with other drugs, however he does not admit that he has a problem at all. He believes that his unhappiness and dependence on drugs is the fault of his mother, his father, his brother, the family dog and the fact that it's a full moon. You are different than that, because you are posting to this forum and you are wanting something better out of life.