my husband has been on suboxone for many years(i know some of you are thinking that it hasnt been around for years and your right it only came out in america resintly but it has been used in europ for years and that is where my husband got it from) he was on it when we meet.
before meeting my husband i always had an active sex life and our sex life is nothing compared to what i had before which cause me alot of problems since he has no sex drive what so ever and we onlt have sex after i've begged and whined about it (twice a month on a good month normally about once every month or two)
he says its due to suboxone and that before he became an addict he had a normal sex drive. i've spent lots of time reading about suboxone and talking to people but everyone either claims it hasnt hurt thier sex drive or just doesnt tell me anything helpful
i really want to have normal relations with my husband and i cant think of anyway to fix it with out him getting off suboxone and risking relapse which i dont think its worth it ....so baisicly do i have any options or am i doomed to an almost sexless marriage?
He's not imagining this. As a husband on suboxone I concur with fisherman and can tell you the sub has definitely cut into my sex drive considerably. The good news is that recently I tapered from my 16mg per day dose to 4mg per day, and ALL the sub side-effects have decreased significantly.
As a normal healthy woman, you deserve and need to have sex in your marriage, in your life, and though your husband is doing a positive, responsible thing by taking his suboxone, no doubt something needs to change. Ask him to talk to his doctor about the problem, and inquire about supplements or new drugs that may be helpful. Both of you will be much happier. You may need to push him along, as with my own experience with the sub, the fact that I didn't feel like having sex meant that it didn't feel like a problem for me personally that I wan't having it, but I knew my wife felt differently and that I had to get on the case for her sake, for our sake. Sex isn't the only thing in a relationship, but as you know, without it many other things tend to start falling apart.
All hope is NOT lost, so don't despair. Do your research, talk to the doctor and start trying things.
i will just about guarantee the problem is low testosterone levels in your husband. send him to his doctor and have them checked you will not be disappointed. testosterone therapy will clear up this problem. not overnight but it will solve the problem
rockingham, that's a good point. i feel like that was/is happening with me to some extent. definitely worth looking into. for the record, i tried viagra a few months ago, and though it did produce the desired effect physically, the feeling still wasn't there. however there is a new drug - "levitra" ...which i've heard is more effective for the all-around experience.
thank you for the note fisherman. i posted my update in the "octomon" thread you kindly started for me.
We have the same issues-both my husband and i are on it-hes at 2mgs-but we haven't had sex in months-its tough-ive become a..eunuch..lol
Getting a little more than weirded out-oh well-whats a girl to do?
Wow GGirl that's a tough one. Well look at the bright side...the chances of infidelity in your marriage are very slim! Sorry....couldn't resist a little humor. Helps me to laugh sometimes. Though my wife didn't think it was funny either
You know, as mentioned ealier in this thread, there are many things to try. The obvious answer is eventually not taking suboxone if that is an option for either of you. When I was hiding my addiction from my wife, my libido was flat, and I did have some success with supplements and viagra.
I'm hoping at some point somebody will chime in with a real suboxone sex success story. Maybe it will be me? I'll keep you posted.
Thats what we need here-is a little humor-next thread-suboxone sex tips???
That made me laugh-and smile...Well-we've been together for 15 yrs..so-a little break-i can live with.
Im looking at it-like maybe celibacy will inspire some creativity or spiritual revelation-haha-i miss the closeness-but when your in for the long haul-there are breaks in intimacy-i suppose.
When i was using-it was tough then-so-its not so differant.
Anyways-have a good weekend-
Its a 3 day -but i gotta work monday-for a couple hours.