Re: He's a great guy abusing Alcohol
When you give an ultimatum to an addict/alcoholic you most likely will always lose. The reason is we suffer from a disease that has no known cure and we are powerless over our addiction. It doesn't mean we don't want the same things as other people, or that we should be treated like lepers, it means we are sick and without treatment we will never get better. I wouldn't just run because he is an alcoholic, I would reevaluate your position and if he refuses to get help than maybe you should think about discontinuing your relationship however, I would make your ultimatum one about treatment, or recovery not about drugs. In my addiction my drugs/alcohol came before everyone and everything, and when I had lost everyone and everybody it was the one person that stayed around and never enabled me however had faith in me and was my cheerleader that gave me hope to go on. I do believe though that you must keep yourself safe, so if you feel unsafe emotionally, and or physically you must break ties.