Re: Advice about drinking
Unfortunately, there is not much you can do. Unless she wants to quit, she won't. I always got angry or defensive about my drinking, and in hindsight it was b/c I really kinda knew they were right, but couldn't admit it. The pain needs to be great enough for us to change. Different people have different amounts of pain they'll go through before changing, some never do. Finally I was sick and tired of the rat race. And I knew someone who had gone to aa, so I called them and they took me. Mind you, my ex asked me to go with him to a meeting not 5 months earlier and I was just aghast...I wasn't ready.
Honestly, all you can do is work on yourself. Maybe try an Al-anon meeting where you'll be around people who all are going through similar situations.
Sorry I couldn't give you any brighter news.