I'm not sure if this is the right forum for my situation but I don't know where else to turn. If anyone has suggestions, please share. I have never been an addict so I need advice to help someone I love dearly. My boyfriend was a recovering coke addict-had been clean for 9 years. We were not together at the time so I have no idea what I am dealing with now. I have never had anyone in my life with this issue so I am very scared about what he is going through. I don't know what I can do for him if there is anything. Can any of you offer advice on what to expect, what I should do, etc? Again, if I am not in the right forum I apologize, just at a loss for what to do.
I'm not sure if this is the right forum for my situation but I don't know where else to turn. If anyone has suggestions, please share. I have never been an addict so I need advice to help someone I love dearly. My boyfriend was a recovering coke addict-had been clean for 9 years. We were not together at the time so I have no idea what I am dealing with now. I have never had anyone in my life with this issue so I am very scared about what he is going through. I don't know what I can do for him if there is anything. Can any of you offer advice on what to expect, what I should do, etc? Again, if I am not in the right forum I apologize, just at a loss for what to do.
Hi trish123,
Get in touch with your local AA group (yes, alcoholic's anonymous) because they deal with multiple addictions and can be very helpful in informing you on what to expect and helping your boyfriend on handling his addiction. They are also helpful in assisting you on keeping yourself mentally and emotionally safe. You really need more help than can be given on this forum although, I think this forum can provide some support.
Trish did he relapse is he using again? Or is this an issue of wanting to be supportive so he stays clean and your dont know how, because you arent an addict? I agree I think AA or NA would help you alot you can get some insight. Might not be bad if he went too. There is also support groups for the famlies of addicts too. Good luck. Kim
Thanks for the advice-gives me a good place to start. I'm from a very rural area so I hope we can find the support he needs. I know this is going to be a long, hard ordeal but want to be as prepared as I can be. He started using again about 2 weeks ago but just broke down and told me yesterday. He currently has been on a 3-day binge. He doesn't have much family support and I am the only one he has admitted this to. I didn't know what "signs" to even look for so I had no idea--that's why I feel so helpless. It makes it even harder because we are currently in a long-distance relationship due to work so I can't even be around him. Does cocaine make a person more irritable, etc? I'm not sure how to approach treatment issues, etc because I don't want to anger him to the point where he avoids all phone contact since I'm the only one he'll talk to about it.
I think that him reaching out to you is a sign that he needs help. Right now I wouldnt wait another day. He will get mad at you thats what addicts do or he might not. Depends on how bad he really wants to stop, look for him making excuses for things to justify it. We do that too. I think al-anon might be very helpful for you. Goolgle it and you might be able to find an on-line meeting too if there isnt one in your area that people go and share stories and might be able to give you advice on what lies ahead. Google- drug recovery forums that might steer in the direction of finding an on-line meeting. I hope the mods dont take that out since that is something that you need to help your bf into recovery. Good luck and keep us updated. Its a long road ahead until he decides hes ready to stop. He jumped right in with both feet huh a 3 day bender! Also your phone book should have listings in it or AA or NA if not I'm sure you can find a # by doing a search or someone on here might have it handy that will tell you the meeting in your area or a surrounding area. Good luck Kim
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