Re: How long after you quit drinking till you feel better?
I used to drink (quit over 20 years ago), but i basically got tired oif feeling BAD all of the time. Hangovers ruin your day, and mine would often last for two days. Now, I would feel better on the second day, but i wouldn't feel right. I was playing in a band and we could get all of the free drinks we wanted, so it was really easy to overindulge.
I basically got "sick and tired of feeeling sick and tired" as they say. My point is this; support her, and reassure her that once her boidy gets rid of all of the toxins, etc., she'll feel better overall. I would stress every positive thing about abstinence. There's the fact that she'll save money, and noit have to go out of her way to get her alcohol. There's the fact that her health will improve, because she's no longer ingesting a POISON daily. Just accentuate the positive to her and tell her she has your complete support.
In my case, I may have a drink on New years or something, but I never crave afterward, nor do I overindulge. I can drink socially with no worry about addiction anymore. I personally never bought into the notion that if you take a drink, you'll wind up back where you started. I have maybe one to two drinks about once a year, but I never get drunk, and I haven't been hungover in over twenty years. I know that many people need to stop forever, but in my case, abuse has never been an issue. But different people react differently.
Initiallly I stayed away from alcohol completely for over a year just to make sure that the cravings were completely gone. I would definitely reccomend that approach to anyone who wants to stop.
But overall, I would just be positive and supportive. Remind her that she DOES have the power to stop, and that if she does feel powerless, that she can always count on you for support, no matter what. It boils down to choice, and I would help her to continually choose to abstain. Substitute drinking with something positive and healthy instead.
Tell her that if she has the urge, you'll talk her out of it EVERY time, and any time, even if it's 3 o'clock in the morning and she has to wake you up from a good night's sleep. I would also not do any drinking yourself, at least for the first year ( I don't know if you drink or not). That way, she'll know that you're in this battle at her side, which is a great positive thing to do. This will show her that you want what's best for her, and that's what love really is in the end. Tell her she can do it, and that millions of others already do, and have, and have done very well with it.
Good luck to you, and her of course.