mannie8

Hi all. I have been with my BF for 10 months now. 2 months into the relationship I found out he smoked weed. He did it 1 to 2 times a week and had been for the past 5 years. He quit once a few years ago after getting arrested for public intox and posession, but went back to smoking it when things got too stressful in his life. After he told me I was crushed. I have never tried drugs, never even seen drugs IRL, so when he told me I was disappointed, scared, hurt, and wanted to run away. I told him this when I found out. He said he wanted to quit. He said he was going to quit anyway for his job and having me in his life was another reason for him to, like an inspiration.This is the only reason why I didn't break up with him.

So I guess I'm wondering if he really can quit? I have been told marijuana is not addictive, but I've seen a few posts on here that lead me to think differently. I see a common denominator in the posts as well....ADD, which my BF does have. I also feel that the user has to want to quit or it will never work. Well I know for a fact that he wants to do it on rare occassions. He even asked for my "permission" which upsets me because I'm not his keeper. I never asked him to quit, he offered and I accepted. I told him in the beginning he can't quit for me or it will never work, he has to quit because he wants to. Well, at the time I was convinced he wanted to but now I think he was just saying those things to get me to stay with him. I just think it was a lifestyle for him: 1 to 2 times a week, I found pics on his computer of him "posing" with it with a friend, he runs in a circle with other heavy users, says he enjoys it, doesn't think it's a bad thing to do, etc. He said he'll never choose weed over me...is it possible?