I am a member of al-anon. My husband is an AA person. He just celebrated his 20th anniversary yesterday. I have a sister who is struggling with addictions. Her primary addiction is alcohol but due to medical problems and depression, she thought she should stop drinking. Well, she is now popping Xanax like crazy. We lost our brother last month and my sister is having a particularly difficult time with this. To add to her grief, a dear friend of hers died yesterday.
My sister says AA is not for her and she'll never step foot in those doors again. I've accepted that a long time ago. There are many paths to recovery and not all paths fit everyone. My sister has decided to start going back to church to try to come to terms with things that have bothered her all of her life. She found a Catholic church near her that has a recovery program for alcoholics and addicts. She's been going for two weeks. She went to what she called a recovery meeting and said she liked it so far.
I don't want to ask my sister about how this program works. She's very new at it and I don't want to seem like I'm being pushy or intrusive. I want her to do whatever it is she feels she needs to do in order to become alcohol and drug free.
Have any of you been to meetings like this? If so, will you please share with me generally what it's like? Are they 12 step based or is it something different?
May those of you who are struggling with addiction find your path to recovery, peace and happiness. Love and blessings to all of you.
I wanted to share my thoughts.
I've been in A/A before, and i've attended meetings at a Catholic Church. I'm not Catholic (im Christian), but from what i know, they aren't any different then meetings held in commercial buildings. The practice the 12 steps, and each person is still free to choose who they know as their "higher power".
Maybe she feels more comfortable going to meetings there bcuz of her faith. She may feel uncomfortable at the other ones for some reason, but there she feels more understood.
At any rate, that's good that she is going to A/A. They can give her support and guidance, and again, from what i know, they have the same guidelines and practice the same things as traditional A/A locations.
Hope i was of some help......take care.
From what my sister said these meetings are faith based and touch on a lot more than addictions. They talk about alcoholism, drug addictions, childhood issues, gambling, smoking, anything that's causing problems in one's life. These meetings she's going to are not just AA meetings in a church. They're designed around the AA concepts. I believe this meeting she's going to was started by someone who owns a halfway house and there are church elders who attend these meetings.
I go to a AA meeting that my church sponsers. It is not AA as in alcoholics anonymous, but is addicts anonymous, because it is for addictions of any and all kinds. It is not specific to one thing or another. There are people there that are addicted to drugs of all kinds from crack cocaine to pain pills, alcohol, pornography, etc. It is a twelve step based program, however with the permision of AA the 12 steps have been adapted and worded a bit differently to be a bit more gospel oriented. The church is a christian church, and the reading relates to healing through the gospel of Jesus Christ. The book was written by proffesionals, recovering addicts, and the leaders of the church. The reading has examples from the scriptures that relate to the step that is being read about, and the action steps often have scriptures references to use in conjunction with completing that step. Part of step four/five involves confession to the proper church authority. The meeting begin and end with prayer, and supportive friends and family members are invited to attend as well. Foul language is not to be used, which is something that I like about it, because at least in the NA and AA meetings I have been to they used a lot of foul language all the while, while thanking there higher power for helping them become sober. I always had a hard time with that, that is hearing the F word in the same sentence as God. Also at least in the faith based meeting I go to we try not to get to specific about our addictions or into sharing the more ugly details, and focus more on the solution and try not to talk about the problem as much. I like your sister feel like NA/AA meeting are not so much for me. I have been to some and felt like they were so negative. There was a lot of foul language, a lot of people talked about the past so much that it reminded me about the drugs to the point that I left some of those meetings and just went and did drugs. This is why I like the meeting I go to now. Yes we do talk some about our pasts and what are addiction was, but try to focus more on how we feel different gospel principles will help us over come our addictions, and how when we were in our addiction we were not following those principles etc. We talk about what gospel oriented things we can do to give us strength etc. Anyway I hope this helps.
My sister has been thinking a lot about her mortality lately. Our brother passed away Sept. 7th and she has a LOT of medical problems and she's feeling guilty about not helping my brother even though she did everything she could for him for YEARS before distancing herself from him. He too was an alcoholic. She hasn't really grieved for him yet. She knows that alcohol and Xanax aren't helping her at all anymore. She quit alcohol several months ago and is now tapering off the Xanax and trying to stay away from situations that stress her too much. I'm glad that she's found a place where she feels comfortable. It's so difficult for her to express her feelings even when she wants to so badly. She wants to find peace and something positive to hold on to. It seems that she's finding it in these type of meetings.
My sister denounced church when she was a child and never went back. She used to say that she didn't want a priest or pastor or anyone religious to say her eulogy at her funeral. She hated God for years. The fact that she's turned to religion shocks me more than her not drinking. But she looked for peace and happiness in a bottle for so many years and never found it. Her son re-introduced her to religion after he found peace in his faith.
My husband has been in AA for 20 years. He celebrated his 20th anniversary on Oct 13th. My uncle has been in it for about the same amount of time. I've been in ala-anon on and off for 20 years. I've seen how AA works for many people. There are a lot of people who are very happy with AA. And then there are those that for whatever reason they don't feel comfortable with AA. I'm glad to see that there are other types of programs out there for those who don't want to go to AA.
My husband and I went out for breakfast Saturday morning to a place we hadn't gone to in about 3 years. We were seated next to 3 gentlemen who were talking about how to incorporate AA into their religious teachings. I couldn't help but hear them talking. All gentlemen were very involved with their church. One of the men was a psychologist. One gentleman owned a halfway house. The other gentleman had lots of knowledge of AA and the twelve steps. They were discussing how they wanted to go about starting a program at their church.
Diezel, does your church also have a program for family members?
Thank you again so much for taking the time to respond to me!