Hey Half....seems like it's ultimatum time. Tell him you, or the junk - MAYBE he'll get the picture. I have an Aunt right now who is married to an addict - and a HORRIBLE addict at that. He is on disability, and the minute that check comes on Saturday mornings - instead of going out to get groceries, or paying a bill or two, it's either straight to his dealer, or straight to his 'legal dealer'. (The Doc). They are VERY CLOSE to losing their home, their one remaining vehicle, and the utilities are all about to be shut off annnny day now. Today, he screwed me out of money to help feed his head with a quick fix, which ultimately left me 'DONE' with him. Never again. I always tried to help in one way or another for my Aunt's sake - but I cannot anymore. So again today, she has given him the ultimatum - no more pills, or no more her - he chose her, but the minute she turned her back to take a quick shower, he was in he car on his way to get some pills 'on the arm' from a 'friend'. She knows thi trip will take him almost 3 hours to complete (the friend lives a little over an hour away), so she has asked me to come over and change the locks....front, back, and side door. She is actually RELIEVED at this decision - instead of really upset - because she now feels.....well.....almost free. She knows it will be a long hard road - and very difficult to pay the bills, etc. without him around, but she is definately ready to take this on. Actually, it shouldn't be all that hard, because nothing was getting paid with him around anyway. I am on my way over there now....screwdrivers in hand....ready to do a litte locksmith work. She will be fine, I will make sure of it. After all, if you cannot len on your family in times of despair, who CA you lean on?
Maybe this post will help you gain strength, maybe it wont.....or maybe you'll think I am nothing but a goof that writes long posts.... But either way, you need to start living for YOU. And ONLY you!!
This game we call life is absolutely NOT a dress rehearsal - we get one chance at it and one chance ONLY....and it is WAYYYYYY too short to be living in any way other than the one which makes us smile and makes us happy.
Good luck to you friend - be strong - be you - and do what ya gotta do.
Keep posting - it helps as I'm sure you know.