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Boy I wish I knew that one Angie.

I say that because it is her that also has to recover from me. I want her trust back. Her confidence in me. I want my man card back. The sex would be a major plus and would help things move along quicker I think.

I'm on day 20 and feeling great still. No Paws. Lots of energy. Positive attitude. Just like before I put the Ox on my back.

I'm in the same situation with my sex life. My Psychologist said to me if I want things to get better "go home and screw her". That is a quote. Well as you know thats eaiser said than done. We have two kids that already inhibit the sex life then throw work and this wonderful stunt I pulled on top and she is not interested. She also sometimes works long hours and is tired too.

I even went and got fixed so we could be more spontanoius but no luck yet. My Psychologist says to keep a positive attitude and keep trying. He said to me to just keep "messing with her" and sooner or later she will be in the mood. Again, time and patience. Just keep messing with your hubby. You never know what will happen. My Psychologist also said to go into the situation knowing you might face some attitude from her, some negative comments and be prepared for the NO if you get one. Then I wouldn't feel as hurt and more positive about trying again and again until I get me some. :-)

We have to prove to them thet we really do love them and didn't mean to hurt them. My wife knows I love her but he (Doc) means the passionate kind of love not the I you have for a friend or parrent or one of your kids.

My wife is afraid that she will put her trust back into me and I will just let her down again and she says she just can't take that. This will take time to earn back and patience.

With her speaking to my Psychologist it helped. He has explained that with the proper medication and regular visits to him and my med Doc I would have no problems. The big factor is my (OUR) sobriety. Don't forget that one. I will stay clean and keep talking to her and slowly things will come back.

I put myself into her shoes and I don't blame her a bit. I would be pretty ****** too. She knows I'm a smart person, she says I'm smarter than her so she is puzzled about the addiction thing. she will say, "Your smart, didn't you think about that before you did it?"
I guess I'm smart but also an addict (recovering) and that clouds the thoughts.

My Psychologist thinks I also have something called Hypermania? or Hypomanina? I think the first one, not sure. He says it is a very mild form and I have most likely had it my whole life and just never noticed. I am very high energy (Hyper active and can't sit on one place for very long unless I'm doing something), I like fast powerful hobbies (Down Hill Skiing, Dirt bike racing, Off Shore Speed boats, Motor Cycle road racing) and I go overoard when I get passoniate about something. Good for work and money, bad for drugs and booze. He seems to think if I get on the proper medication and under the proper supervision I would have not trouble controling it. He said if I was passionate about controling it I would have great success. Sounds like and oxymoron And I don't like the Oxy part. :-)

From a guys point of view on the sex thing at least mine at this time just the words O.K. and I'm ready to rock on :-)

I can't speak for your hubby but maybe REACH might have some more wonderfull insight on this with all of her wisdom. She may chime in on this one.

Just hang in there and stay clean. Just like the W/D's. it will pass and he will get interested.

I can tell you one thing, us guys can't go for long without, at least me. I never would stray from my wife and never have, not to crude but sometimes us guys have to take matters into our own hands if you know what I mean:-)

Just be patient, He will be back. Keep on Keepin' on.

Big hugs

Peace.
Baja