redrockrag

Hey Baja, one thing I learned when my son was little was that everyone starts out, like a horse race. They are let out of the gates some get around the turn faster than others some come on strong at the end but we all finish the race. In relationships some of us get there sooner that others. In my breakup after 20 years my former husband was way ahead of me. I was in shock when he moved out, had no idea. He had the girlfriend, the bank account ready, a place to live. At first I felt so betrayed but when I think back if I had of communicated better and not buried my head in the sand I would have been in the same place and known that what we had was not working out. Reach has some good ideas about communication and maybe additional counciling ,with you and your wife, where you could talk about her mom without being critical or judgemential would be helpful. How their relationship impacts your family and how to make mom a positive person in your family instead of "MMG". I've always told my kids and their friends, your family is forever but your boyfriend, girlfriend and wife, hubby can come and go and often do. Good luck and I sure hope you can work it.
RR