I don't think that even if she did went to Juvie that she would have taken it seriously. Because there she would have met girls who are doing much worse drugs.
And in her mind it would have just reinforced the fact that she is NOT like them and that what she is doing is not wrong.
I am 29 now, but when i was in high school i completely rebelled. I smoked pot all the time and drank. WHy you ask? I don't know. I didnt think that smoking pot was a bad thing. Just like she doesn't.
What did wake me up though was having my mom sit there and cry in front of me one night and her saying, " i know that you think this is not a bad drug. And it isn't that bad. But, it puts you in touch with the wrong people. And those are the people who you will be with at "the wring time and place"!
Like a car accident because the driver was high. Or a shoot out, b/c the kid you are smoking with stole it from someone who's brother was in a gang.
I laughed b/c we were in upstate NY. But then i thought about and i realized she was right. Maybe pot is not a gateway drug for ALL kids. But it does put them in a high risk zone for being in the wrong placa and wrong time.
MY mom, did concede though and let me smoke cigarettes. She smoked too and I think she knew that she couldn't win on all fronts. But i did agree to stop the pot. And we both agreed that if i did find myself in a bad situation no matter what, she would come get me and ask no questions. So this way i wouldnt be driving or driving with someone else who was messed up.
Also, she told me that there was no money for college. So if i wanted to go, i had to take out student loan which i would have to pay back. (still am)! And that if i was spending all the time smoking in college and getting bad grades then i just wasted $40,000 to get high.
Well, that made total sense to me. (i was also 17 at the time). And i wanted to go away and board at college. Needless to say i went to school and got a 4.0 all 4 years and my mom became my best friend. She still is to this day.
I know i have been blabbering, but i just wanted to give you an idea of how kids think. I was one and one who did what she is doing.
Try talking to her like that, maybe it will work. I don't know if you have already. Maybe you tried everything.
But it seems to me that she wants to make a big deal out of it.....
It all boils down to attention.
I hope everything goes ok. PLease write us all back and keep in touch!
And just remember that God only gives you what you can handle. (though it may not seem it at times).
And more importantly, you are doing a GREAT, WONDERFUL and FANTASTIC thing for those kids. Just remember that!