Doing Okay!!! (Attn: Victoria) - Addiction & Recovery Message Board

Jester · 11-10-2000, 08:57 AM

I am not craving it, I am doing well. Although I have a migraine today I am feeling great about life.

I guess it is really nice to have a decent outlook on life. When I was smoking pot as much as I was it seemed to alter my outlook on life. I am seeing this a lot with my husband. For example yesterday:

I had a really challenging day at work, then I went to school for another 3 hours. I was exhausted a the end of the day to get home and have to shovel the snow off the sidewalks and then have to leave to return the movie that was due back. The last things that I wanted to do, but they had to get done. Now 3 weeks ago I would have just left the sidewalks for my husband and left the movie for another day. But I did it all because I should have. My husband had to work overtime and he got home after me. So he returned home after a challenging day at work and was all grumpy. SO he had his 'smoke' to relax and then mellowed out. It didn't necessarily change his attitude, but it made him feel a little better. SO I am noticing that after a similarily hard day I have an attitude like "I feel rewarded that I got through the day and I will be a better person because of it", and his attitude is that "I had a crappy day and I just wanna crawl into a hole". It is nice to see this. Not his attitude, but to see what pot does to people. This makes me want ot stay away from it even more!!!

Thanks for listening

11-10-2000, 04:07 PM

Dear Jes,

I'm so glad you're doing good! Isn't it funny to see someone else's perspective of all aspects of life when they are stoned?

We're doing better, too. I guess you read about our two "slip-ups", but it's over and done with, hopefully for good. My hubby told his "friend" not to call us with any more freebies, that our 20 year struggle has to come to an end. It's one aspect of guilt that I don't have to live with, and it's wonderful. Not that I don't crave it, I do, but I'm proud of myself for living my life without pot. SNOW? Ughhh. I hope to not see that for awhile! We're in Pennsylvania, eastern side......... Keep me posted, ok? I feel better knowing others are winning their battles. Take good care of yourself, and your husband, too. He'll see the light, someday.

11-10-2000, 04:17 PM

Jes,

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Jester · 11-14-2000, 09:09 AM

Victoria,

Thanks for chatting with me about this. It is nice to see that I am not alone here. I am doing well. Remember I live in Canada so we have snow here more often than you guys in the States!:P Oh well, it is nice to have snow for Christmas shopping, puts me in the mood. Actually the Christmas spirit is a great diversion for me right now. I haven't even thought of smoking in the last week or so. It is funny, I am in school part-time evenings, and I am all of a sudden doing much better - coincidence?

I think not!!!

So how are you doing? Yes I heard about your couple of slip ups. Don't hang yourself on them for too long. Look forward not backwards. I know you can do it. Just put your mind to it. I am glad that your husband is letting your "friend" know that you don't want the freebies, but it will be hard to get that guy off your back. He doesn't want to lose your business. You and him wil lhave to be strong. Best of luck. Keep me posted.

Jes