aideen

Hi Rebecca
I'm glad to here you are getting on with your own life as we all too easily forget ourselves and concentrate on our significant other! I hope all works out for you with your finance. Don't wait around too long for a change in him as you are stopping yourself from living then.
I too think about Squirrel - often actually - and wonder how she is doing. It is a pity that we can't "call over" and give her the support she obviously needs (I think, silence speaks it's own language). I hope, she won't feel, she can't come back to the board but I'm sure, some day when she is ready, she will.
Myself - I can't write as easily as I still have no phone in my new house and so haven't brought my computer over yet. My boyfriend is still drinking on and off but still intends stopping and each time is taking on a little more responsibility for his situation. I am okay with that as I feel in him a change and with time he will learn what he needs to know. I am not around him when he drinks and see him only now and again. It is difficult but we have a lovely time together now and I have given him the right and responsibility to make his own decisions in his life. It feels much different. He can tell me, he was out without feeling judged except by himself.
I am getting on with my own life too and am hopeful again for the future. I was beginning to lose all hope.
Time will tell and we have lots of time (hopefully!).
Good luck with your own decisions - stick to doing what is right for you and not what is easiest and you will be okay. Good luck - I know it is hard and we don't always get it right.

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Eleanor