Reaching out for help - Addiction & Recovery Message Board

seame2112 · 08-28-2002, 07:12 AM

I have been in recovery before. It's what I needed at the time. I'm older now and should know better. But addiction is alway the same, and needs to be feed when the monster come calling. I'm looking to reach out to a higher power this time A chruch group I think. This is what you maght call in AA as what I'm going to do diffrent this time. Has anybody tried this road to recovery before?

aideen · 08-28-2002, 01:43 PM

It’s my boyfriend who is the alcoholic and although I can’t give you any advice about the church (we both wouldn’t be religious at all), I can only admire anyone who is willing to “give up” their addiction. I can constantly see how hard it is for my boyfriend to stay sober though he says, he wants to. It is often very hard to believe that someone can want to stay sober yet time and time again goes out drinking as soon as they have money. The power of this addiction is so huge that any step to try and take back control from it is to be admired. I hope all works out for you. Good luck.

aideen · 08-28-2002, 01:44 PM

It’s my boyfriend who is the alcoholic and although I can’t give you any advice about the church (we both wouldn’t be religious at all), I can only admire anyone who is willing to “give up” their addiction. I can constantly see how hard it is for my boyfriend to stay sober though he says, he wants to. It is often very hard to believe that someone can want to stay sober yet time and time again goes out drinking as soon as they have money. The power of this addiction is so huge that any step to try and take back control from it is to be admired. I hope all works out for you. Good luck.

seame2112 · 08-29-2002, 10:10 AM

Thanks aideen for the support if you get a chance to read this agian all I can offer you about your boyfriend is alcohol will make people say and do things they wouldn't normally do like lie and hurt the people we love I have been there and done that you can't change anyone who dosen't want to change Change can only come from within

aideen · 08-29-2002, 11:36 AM

Thanks - I know,he will have to find his own way but it is still painful "watching"! I try to give him my support by leaving him to make his own decisions, even if they are bad for him. I miss him though when he "breaks off" from me during the week. Anyway, someday he will realise what is making him unhappy and believe in it so much that he will want the change for himself. He is slooowly getting there (I hope!).
It's still nice to hear again that it is not personal. It is so hard to keep separating it from how he feels about me....usually, I manage though. It's harder this week again because we had a lovely weekend together and he was "supposed" to want a lift shopping on Tuesday but more than likely, got enticed by the drinking again (as he got money that day...).Thanks anyway....