Addiction to marijuana? - Addiction & Recovery Message Board

marley08 · 03-07-2003, 05:13 PM

Hi all~
I want to start by saying this is the first time I've posted to this board, but I've been reading everyone's posts and you are all so brave to share your stories. I admire all of you for reaching out to others.
I'm posting to find out what you all know about marijuana and the effects it has on people who smoke it regularly? My husband has smoked it regularly, behind my back, for probably 7 years now. We've had fights about this subject throughout our marriage. He never does it around me, or in our house...only with his friends, whom he spends alot of time with. He knows how strongly I feel against him doing it (we even separated for 7 months last year because I caught him), but he continues to do it. He says he is not addicted and has even tried to make the argument that one cannot become addicted to marijuana. Is this true? Although I can never tell if he is high or not, it seems to me his personality changes. He gets very rude with me...and short tempered. Is that something to be expected with people who smoke pot regularly? Any ideas on what I can say or do to get him to quit? I feel like it's (pot) more important to him than his marriage to me.
Any and all responses are welcome, please! Thank you!

lilbitty55 · 03-07-2003, 07:38 PM

H Marley,

Sorry, but I can't help you on whether pot is addictive or not, but I can tell you that I am fighting the very same battle with my husband. We've been married for 17 years. I have begged him a million times to NOT BRING IT IN THE HOUSE, but he continues to do so. I guess the next step is to throw the crap out myself!! Sorry I couldn't help you..I just wanted yo let you know you're not alone.

Lilbit

openseason · 03-07-2003, 08:07 PM

Yes pot is addictive. There was a book written years ago called marijuana alert. Its no different from alcohol and its effects on the family. You are what is called a pot widow and there are many families living with the problem.

GinaLee · 03-08-2003, 01:02 AM

Way back in my teenage years I smoked dope...a lot. I started at age 14 (1974) and stopped when I was 21. I just never "took" to it. I got high as a kite and then some but the effects that I got were just not pleasant. Oh dopey me... I really thought that smoking dope...droppin' acid...doin' speed and coke was just a teenage phase and once I became an adult I would stop doing it all. And I did stop it all too...but good ol' beer (the "legal" stuff) had me and wouldn't let go.

I can't imagine being addicted to pot and I am really one addictable individual. However, just because it didn't take me by the throat doesn't mean it can't happen to others... your husband very well could be addicted; who knows, but it's a question for him to answer, not you. It is your decision to make whether you are willing to live with it. I wish you well.

P.S. When I chose to quit doing pot and the other stuff... I had to end my relationships with my friends in order to do it. I only know of one other friend from back then that doesn't do it today.

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Gina

rebecarooni · 03-08-2003, 07:15 AM

My fiance has smoked for years and argues that it wasn't addictive so I challenged him to quit. He found that while his body was ok if he stopped, he obsessed over pot constantly. He has been completely sober for a month now and says that while he occasionally thinks about drinking, he still thinks about pot a lot. He tells me now that he was addicted psychologically at least. We had the same arguments, not around me not in the house so on and so forth. It took almost losing a job he loves because he was screwing up because he was stoned and hung over all the time for him to get on track. And whether it is addictive or not, I would say it is selfish for him to be a family man and have such an expensive habit.