too old? - Aging Issues Message Board

angel444 · 03-24-2003, 06:01 PM

posted March 24, 2003 07:59 PM
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How do you stop the feeling that you are too old now to beat this disorder ...that there is nothing but getting old left for you
i am 49 this year and i feel so old.....i cant understand how im going to keep going like this all my life getting older weaker and still try to overcome something like this that i have not been able to beat in my younger days
how do you get rid of the fear of being too old now? any help would be appreciated

Semper Fi · 03-27-2003, 07:04 PM

Angel i take it your a woman. so right off the bat you should out live me.
i turned 50 last month and was bummed out about it for a day or two.
for me, i bought a new motorcycle and joined my 28 year old son's crazy sport bike group. and presto , i was young again.

so i say get involved with whatever is fun for you.

my life sucked as a kid. i lived on the streets and was abused in every way.
the Marine Corps and Viet Nam was not so bad after that. i am now retired , everything is paid for and i am having the time of my life.
it all boils down to you finding what will make you happy.
i do not think anyone else can do it for you.
good luck , God Bless , and keep in touch from down under. peace from Florida!

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NucleoGirl · 04-14-2003, 01:47 PM

Angel -

I read your other post also and know you are 45+. Me, too! Please do not be do discouraged. (I'm sorry about your hormone problem. Can you take hormone replacements and meds for your anxiety? :> I come from a family of 5 girls and we say better living through chemicals. We are NOT drug addicts, just unwilling to spend our lives uncomfortably if it can be avoided. Also, you might want to look into getting some anti-depressants. Depression is very common and often goes untreated.)

You mentioned that you walk nine miles a night and then have sore legs, knee, feet, etc. Might I suggest that you cut the walk back to about 5 miles a night, or walk the 9 miles every other night - your muscles need time to recover. Also be sure to stretch! One of the things that I have noticed as I've aged is that it's very important to keep your flexibility and very easy to get "up tight". Plenty of good books and websites on the subject. Also, weight lifting is good for your bones. You don't have to be big and bulky! Just lift enough weight to give your bones cause to build up.

Now about feeling old.....
I think we all have periods of time when this state of mind strikes. 7 weeks ago I had to have back surgery (nucleoplasty - now you know where my moniker comes from) and it has been the pits! I couldn't do anything - really flat on my back - for 4 weeks and am now only feeling better. You can't just fall over and give up.

You're only 46, 47, 48 (sorry, I forgot) - you're not 80! :> Actually, my parents are in their 80s and just started going to a personal trainer! Unbelievable! But, it does show that you can still go out and do things AND enjoy them.

Play with your family and friends. I find that helps me to "get out of my own head".

I don't know if this will help at all, but I could not resist writing. I know what it is like to feel like your have passed your "best if used by date" (they put that on milk here in the US).

Anyway, "cheers" -
L.

angel444 · 04-14-2003, 05:09 PM

thank you so much for your reply
your words have given me hope and helped me see that its never too late
you took the time to help someone who had lost the way and that is a wonderful kind thing to do
i had to let you know how much that meant to me and to thank you from the bottom of my heart
angel

poreoilyme · 04-15-2003, 01:10 AM

I'm 49. If you want to feel young, do some volunteer work with elderly people. You can sharpen your perspective on this and learn a great deal from their tremendous faith, wisdom, strength, courage, and sense of humor in trying to deal with life's challenges while living in an old body with a young spirit inside.

PS I may be 49, but inside I am nowhere near that. I have goals and challenges and there will just never be enough time to enjoy this life as much as I want to. Find something that interests you enough to forget your age and keep thinking ahead, not behind. Your life is not half over, it has halfway begun.

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