I am 42 but looks much younger - Aging Issues Message Board

TonyKing · 10-28-2005, 06:52 PM

Thanks for feedback

Abby214 · 10-28-2005, 09:10 PM

Hi,
I think the way we age is entirely up to genetics. Do your parents look younger than they actually are?

Also, I see nothing wrong with dating someone several years younger or older than you are, I would suggest that you be honest and tell her the truth as soon as possible.

Why would you lie about your age, are you insecure?

Be thankful you look young for your age!!

Abby

TonyKing · 10-29-2005, 04:03 AM

Thanks Abby for your encouraging reply, I don't feel insecure the only reason I am worried is about the girls parents/friends. She knows that I am 30+. It took a while for me to go out with someone after my terrible painful heartbreak.
I will tell her my age and please advice me if I am missing something.

thebluedog · 10-29-2005, 08:28 AM

Tony, I think this girl is way too young for you. It's not so much the age difference between you two, it's her age. She's only 22. This girl has a lot of maturing to do. She hasn't had a chance to develop. Her perspective on life, values, principles, likes/dislikes need time to develop.
I've heard the arguement that, "but she's so mature for her age". That may be true, but she still has a lot to learn about herself. I thought I had the maturity of an adult when I was 12...little did I know. People learn a lot about themselves while their in their 20's.
It's not a matter of how young you look. Even if you looked 22...the important issue is internal.
Also, ask yourself this..."Would you want a 42 year old man dating your 22 year old daughter?
You may love her, but I think she's too young Tony. You seem like a good guy. Your concern makes me think you really care for this girl and want to do the right thing.

mauvais · 10-29-2005, 10:54 AM

You've been lying about your age. You can rationalize it all you want (she thinks I'm 30+) but you've been misleading her. You know HER exact age, there is no reason she shouldn't know yours. I don't know why you're asking us--- tell her your real age today and let HER decide if she wants to date a 42 year old!