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Old 07-25-2006, 10:44 PM   #1
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Male - Almost 21, look like Im 14..

Let me first start off by saying please refrain from saying how great my life will be in 20 years when I look young. Im sick of it, I hear it every day. You dont have any idea how HORRIBLE your life is when you look too young.

What im interested in is anything that can promote faster aging in young males. Of course this would be something I'd take up with a doctor, definately not taking any stuff buying it off the internet. If anyone has any medical suggestions on what can be done I'd love to hear it. My life it to the point where I would give damn near anything to be able to look my age.. Maybe have a girlfriend for once and gain some self confidence.. God I hate my life!

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Old 08-01-2006, 05:10 AM   #2
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Re: Male - Almost 21, look like Im 14..

When I was 18, I went out with a guy who was the same age but looked more like 13. It wasn't an issue for me as he did act his age. However, it did bother him especially when we went to clubs and he'd be the only one out of our group asked for their ID.

10 years later, he still can pass as an 18 year old and yes, he still gets asked for his ID (by bouncers etc...). It still bothers him from time to time, but not so much. I guess it's because it hasn't stopped him from living a life he's wanted.

Old 08-01-2006, 01:15 PM   #3
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My advice:

I wouldn't do anything or take anything to make you age faster or make you look older. HOWEVER, there are ways to make yourself APPEAR older by simply changing your appearance.
Sometimes, even people who look young can be mistaken for an older person simply by the way they carry themselves. I'm not saying that you carry yourself in an immature way! LOL* Not at all. But I know some things that (IMO) let me know that a guy is older and not a young teenager.

For example, I don't know if you have any facial hair or not, but to me, facial hair makes a guy immediately look a lot older. Maybe try growing out a moustache, or a slight beard/5 a'clock shadow or something. Dressing in more "older" clothes instead of the usual "jeans and tee-shirts" will automatically make a guy appear older than he is.

Holding doors for women, acting mature, etc....all this can make someone appear older, even if the person looks young.

Bottom line, my advice is: Don't do anything or ingest anything in your body to make yourself look old. I know you're going to hate it when I say this, but TRUST me...when you really DO get old, it's not all it's cracked up to be. You may be WISHING you still looked young. Besides, now you can take advantage of your "youthful" looks. When you get older, you could probably date girls a lot younger than you, but people wouldn't think it was "weird" because you look young. Plus, in the future, your daughters friends will probably think you're "hot". LOL*

Look on the bright side! If your girlfriend/friends know your "real" age, then I say forget what everyone else thinks!

Hope I didn't offend you or anything. Not sure how encouraging this was, but I hope it helped you feel at least a little better!

Old 11-22-2006, 11:38 PM   #4
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Re: Male - Almost 21, look like Im 14..

I know how you feel, dude. I'm 17, but I've gotten a lot of comments saying how young I look. Many have thought I look 12 or so. Basically, I haven't developed at all in 3 years. I plan to talk to a doctor about it. I hope for something that will get me developing in the right direction again. I'm sure there has to be something to boost development.
| NAME: Joey | GENDER: M | AGE: 20 | HEIGHT: 5'3" | WEIGHT: 120-125 |

Old 11-23-2006, 06:21 AM   #5
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Re: Male - Almost 21, look like Im 14..

Dear Joe and Munku. I know exactly what you are talking about. My brother had the same problem. This was in the 70"s. He was miserable all through his teens and twenty's but finally a doctor found the problem. I can't give to much information about his conditon because he is a very private person and wont tell me to much. I can tell you this much. It is caused by a medical problem. Not serious and not hereditary just a fluke. It involves the pituatary gland. He now takes a small shot every day just like a diabetic would, and he has grown facial hair, grown taller, filled out, voice change! He loves it! It has changed his life. Talk to a specialist.

I hope this helps


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Old 11-25-2006, 04:56 AM   #6
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Re: Male - Almost 21, look like Im 14..

I'm in this boat, but I believe it's probably a better thing than a worse thing!

Old 11-26-2006, 07:47 AM   #7
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Re: Male - Almost 21, look like Im 14..

Anything you do to promote signs of aging will come back to bite you later in life. NOBODY wants to look older than they are once they are 40 As others have mentioned, there is a chance it is a medical issue, but the easiest thing to do is probably to promote the appearance of being more mature.

Simply stated, observe how 25 year olds dress and cut their hair for instance, and copy that. Watch how 15 year olds dress and cut their hair and do nothing to emulate that. There are more cues to age than just weathering, and dressing and hair cuts are immediate adjustments you can make.

The other thing is to hit the gym. The more muscle you carry the less you resemble a 14 year old. A lot people don't like the muscle bound look but it takes many years to get that appearance without steroids, so don't let that scare you. You can quit growing any time you want.

Good luck!

Old 11-26-2006, 10:53 PM   #8
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Re: Male - Almost 21, look like Im 14..

I know how you feel. When I was 24 and went out for my birthday with some people from work. My age was brought up and someone said 16. I was so insulted. Well I'm 36 now and still get carded many times. I do appreciate that now. It's annoying when you are younger though. All you can really do is try to change your look to try to look older but in the end really you can't change who you are and will need to just accept it. After all looks are not the most important thing in life. I think our society thinks way too much about how people look.

Also maybe people are complimenting you when they say this. I remember when I was 24 and people would say I looked so young and I snapped at someone at work one time and then was told it was meant as a compliment. At that moment I realized that they were not trying to insult me. In this day and age most people when they say something like that are actually complimenting you. Try to look at it that way.

Old 12-03-2006, 07:15 PM   #9
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Some say it is due to a copper toxicity. So try eating oysters and see if you feel different, they have zinc, zinc is antagonist of copper(gets rid of). Also, if you get tired when you eat protein, try hydrochloric acid supplements and last but not least, manganese (pineapple) if you have get tired when you eat white bread.

Old 12-03-2006, 07:27 PM   #10
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Um I think you posted that on the wrong thread.

Old 12-06-2006, 06:38 PM   #11
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No right thread.

Old 01-14-2007, 02:24 AM   #12
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Re: Male - Almost 21, look like Im 14..

Well, I'm 31, and I look 14 or 15, but people realize I'm not that young because of how I act and dress. I think how you act and dress have a lot to do with how old people perceive you to be. I don't speak with a lot of slang, and try to sound intelligent. I also dress older than 15. That's not to say I dress like an old lady, but dress in overly cutesy clothes. I think that's better than trying to artificially age yourself. You could eat a horrible diet, stay out in the sun, smoke, and drink, but that might put you in an early grave as well.

I actually think that it's more likely something you're doing right than a medical problem, but if you think you need to see a professional, so be it.

Old 01-21-2007, 06:13 AM   #13
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Re: Male - Almost 21, look like Im 14..

I know exactly how u feel, im now 22 and look about 14. It has seriously made me unconfident and paranoid about how people think of me. I don't go out coz i cant help but think people are looking at me and wondering how i got in the place. I cant get a girlfriend, not because of how i look, but more because of how shy I am. I cant find anything to say and I start to sweat whoever i talk to and I'm afraid I might have other phsycological problems because of this. I've been thinking of seeing a doctor about it but I have just felt stupid about. Reading this thread I am definately going to see a doctor although I feel it might be too late for my confidence.

Old 01-21-2007, 03:27 PM   #14
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Re: Male - Almost 21, look like Im 14..

Never too late for your confidence. That part of you will keep growing for another 20 years Looking young is just looking young. It isn't a hideous deformity or disability. Don't read too much into people's feelings about your apparent age.
You are just getting to the years where your age doesn't matter. Normal 19 year olds don't have 12 year old friends but nobody would notice a 32 year old with a 25 year old friend. Every year forward will get easier for you, guaranteed.
Like I said earlier try the gym too. The more physicaly robust you are, the less immature you will appear.
Whatever you decide, the worst is already behind you.

Old 01-22-2007, 07:01 AM   #15
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Re: Male - Almost 21, look like Im 14..

Honestly I wouldn't complain. I'm in the same boat as you since I'm in my mid 20's and people think I'm 15/16 I just take it as a compliment since well I must look good. People think my 6 years younger sister is my older sister when we go out together So look on the bright side of things, it's a compliment and take it as that. Plus my bf is the same age as me and both of us get ID'ed when we go out but meh who cares. We dress our age, act our age so no biggie. Again like others have said, you should really dress your age, act your age and well I'm sure you hang around with people your age. No 21 year old would hang around with a 14 year old if they aren't related somehow.

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