afraid for my dad...please help
My dad will be 82 in August and has always been a strong, healthy, man. On Father's Day he became very ill and had to be taken to the hospital. He had major surgury to remove part of his intestines, which had twisted and blocked. During the surgury, he suffered a mild stroke. Physically, he's come a long way, from being critical, to being well enough to be discharged from the hospital, and admitted to re-hab, where the therapists and nursing staff are wonderful...But, there's a problem. He's refusing to cooperate. He won't eat his meals, he won't drink, which is causing him to become dehydrated, he argues with the nurses about going to physical therapy, taking a shower, taking his meds, etc. etc. I have no idea what to do. We have a family meeting tomorrow, our first, since he's only been in re-hab for a few days, and I just have a feeling that they will tell us that if he refuses help, he will have to leave. I've tried talking to him about it, but he gets very arguementative. He's convinced he's right. This is his personality, magnified 100 times over, because of the stroke, I'm sure. This stroke hasn't affected him physically, he is equally strong on each side, is up walking with a walker, only a couple of weeks after major surgery, but the mental part will be his downfall. I'm terrified of what will happen if we are forced to take him out of re-hab before he is physically strong enough to help himself. He is a big man, 6'4, 290 lbs., and there is no way I can physically help him. I also wonder if he will be mentally clear enough to live alone, as he has for the last 3 years since my mom died. I know he would never come and live with me. I've tentively brought it up, and he flat out said "no". I guess I'm just looking for some suggestions, or maybe a little reassurance. I know things like this happen to people all the time. I wish I knew what to do. Thank you for any thoughts or suggestions.