Re: Dad is emotionally withdrawn
I can understand your frustration with not feeling a connection with your dad. I feel the same way about mine. We have had some real authentic conversations over the years, but they were rare and few and far between. Sometimes I just really feel like my dad doesn't care much (have interest) for me. I've come to terms with it. Sometimes when I try to force something with him it just turns out awkward, and I feel his resistance to connect. By the way he has struggled with alcoholism all of my life and recently admitted to being depressed.
I don't really try to be friends with my dad anymore because if I'm honest with myself I don't quite like him anymore. His drinking is such a problem, and me and my mom always feel like we aren't or he's not making any progress. Then there's the problem that he's not a provider anymore like he used to be, and my mom often puts me in the middle of their problems by telling me how he hasn't done this or hasn't done that. (sigh) That's life. Well good luck with your dad. I'd say just keep loving him and being kind to him. You could try to be more real with him. Just don't be too surprised if he reacts in the same way he always has, with what I assume is surface cliche type of conversation. Humans are creatures of habit.