Re: is this normal?
My preoccupation goes in cycles. A relative's hip breaks and I think, "How would I deal with this?" Not so long ago this was the end. Not now. Indeed it can work out well, to be sure. But, mercy, it can be one big struggle going nowhere. I do not have the necessary support and simply could not endure the dependency. Have notes in my purse, "Do not call 911, take me home."
And at home? That is what I still have to work out.