Your concern for your grandmother is commendable. Your grandfather neds to have some understanding as to just wat is happening to her and his need to help her feel loved and still important. He must learn that she is not to be blamed for any of her thoughts or actions. If he is not going to be able to do that she had better come to live with you or your mother. If your grandfather could remember the 10 absolutes it might work there.
The 10 Absolutes of Caregiving
for Alzheimer’s Patients
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Never ARGUE, instead, AGREE.
Never REASON, instead, DIVERT.
Never SHAME, instead, DISTRACT.
Never LECTURE, instead, REASSURE.
Never “REMEMBER,” instead, REMINISCE.
Never “I TOLD YOU,” instead, REPEAT.
Never “YOU CAN’T,” instead, “DO WHAT YOU CAN.”
Never COMMAND OR DEMAND, instead ASK OR MODEL.
Never CONDESCEND, instead, ENCOURAGE OR PRAISE.
Never FORCE, instead, REINFORCE
(Jo Huey, Greater New Odlenes Patient and Family Service) FKC
Keep faith and God bless
Franklin
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franklin K. Cassel
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