suggestions for outgoing calls?? - Alzheimer's Disease & Dementia Message Board

dolores129 · 03-08-2005, 08:28 PM

Anyone have any suggestions how to handle the constant calls to work. My mother is calling my husband at his job over and over. I have edited the phone books at her house ---tore out the pages with office number; I have checked all her little papers for the number. ... I don't know how she is finding it...but she is...he said she called 5 times today and he told her not to call anymore. The calls go through a secretary and they are getting pretty tired of it. HELP!! Of course, if she is not calling him...she is calling the house...yesterday she called 24 times between 1:30p and 5pm. and left that many messages. No one was home. It is the most irritating thing to find your machine filled when I get home. I understand she forgets but some of the calls were every 3 minutes--long enough to leave the message on machine and redial. I am gooing to tape a "do not call..." on her phones tomorrow but anyother suggestions.

Dolores

seekalot · 03-08-2005, 08:54 PM

What is she trying to accomplish with these calls, do you know?

angel_bear · 03-08-2005, 09:16 PM

Disconnect it?

If you see her daily'ish .. perhaps you could uplug the phone in the morning, and replug it in at night?

Wow ... amazing how they're all good with numbers eh?

Hugs ..goodluck
Sally

dolores129 · 03-09-2005, 01:54 PM

I've tried disconnecting it but she goes across the street to the neighbors, calls the phone company that her phone is out, and gets charged for the visit. I tried taping DO NOT Call notes on phones, walls, etc. Just spoke with husband and she called several times this morning. I just don't know where she is getting the phone number. She cannot recall numbers unless she has them written or off caller id. I feel really bad for my husband--and I just don't know how to make it right.

dolores129 · 03-09-2005, 01:56 PM

She is trying to call him to let him know that "they? are coming to take my house";"I need help moving because they? are coming". Her delusion that someone is taking her house and she will have to move is constant lately. So, she calls him. I think she calls my house ; no answer; so she figures she can call him. He is not at his desk all the time....so his secretary gets the constant callls.