Dear Friends,
Mom is coming back on Thursday and I am somewhat apprehensive about her adjustment, first to being 'home' again after 3 weeks, and then to moving to Bill's house in June. She told my sister that she is OK with going to Bill's house 'in a year' but not NOW. A year is far too late, I move out in mid June and she will have to leave.
Bill says he is worried about how to convince her it is a good move. He is great in his attempts, but Mom isn't buyig any of it. He told her that he will need her help around the house because Anna will be out of the house baby sitting. (In reality Mom is no help at all, but if she thinks she is helping, great. If she ever washes dishes, I have to redo them all, full of food stains ..and clothes she 'washes out' are still dirty.) He also says he wants her to teach his grandchildren - the first one comng in June - all the games she used to play with her grandchildren. Anything that will make her feel she is wanted, not being shunted off.
But I still think it is going to involve a lot of protests and tears and even screaming and anxiety. I dread it. Yet I hope he takes her about June 1, two weeks before I leave, so I can wind up cleaning out the apartment after she goes.
Mom usually adjusts well, and I often think if we present it as a long visit, 'until we work out some other way for you to stay in Astoria" that could work, after a month oftr two she may have forgotten this apartment.
Any ideas? deception is OK at this stage... The thing she hates to hear is 'you can't manage alone!'
Love,
Martha
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