The Honeymoon is over ..... - Alzheimer's Disease & Dementia Message Board

angel_bear · 04-04-2005, 03:43 AM

Ahh well .. the wonders of antidepressants worked their miracle for a short time ...

until today ...

*sigh*

Took MIL bowling today .. off she went, happy camper she be .. even gave me $$ to put petrol in her car (of which we have NO issues about her driving anymore .. haven't for months and months eh?) then I went and visited FIL, who has his cataract surgery tomorrow, and BIL picked up MIL from bowling and took her to visit FIL (no doubling up, I was well gone by that stage) and he brought her home, and she was happy happy, and BIL (Registered Nurse) gave MIL her flu and Pneumonia vaccine, and he wandered off.

I went shopping . . . BY MYSELF (bliss .. sheer bliss .. school holidays for 2 weeks start at the end of this week LOL) ........ and it started RAINING, so I picked up all the children from both schools (one on each side of town, no mean feat picking them up in time) and we came home.

MIL grabbed 12yo daughter, and started .... "You you , that that, yes, you, mine, bling blah, thraw, biddle biddle" .. daughter called loudly "MUM !!!!!" ................. I assessed the situation quickly and thought "we're having a moment here" ....... so I approached MIL and asked what the problem was. The reply was
"that over there, thraw three, fling flang, wadda wadda wing" ............

ok .. I get three .. three means my kids .. ok ...... "Doris, have the kids done something?" ......

"YES" she cries .. "blada blada bling, wadda wadda that there mine" ...

Ok ..... so I confirm "Are you telling me the kids have taken something of yours?

'YES' she cries ....... "that there .. thra, thray, wadda wadda, bling mine"

So ...... bad me ... pushing the point ... says "Doris, I don't understand what is exactly wrong. You don't have the right words. Can you show me?"

so she said "OH you STUPID ................. *babble*"

So I called the kids and told them to get upstairs and stay there. We left. the next thing, MIL comes upstairs and she's holding a chocolate bar wrapper. "Bling bling" she says "wadda wadda HER" pointing at my daughter AGAIN .. I kept telling her "The kids have been at school all day. They don't eat your stuff. They haven't touched your stuff"

well .. didn't that start another issue ......... anyway .. she stomped down the stairs, and I called out "STOP abusing my kids for YOUR PROBLEMS"

I was SO cranky ......... I probably shouldn't have pushed it .. but GEEEEEEZ LOUIIIISE ..... I've been lulled into this false sense of security I guess .. and I just LOST IT ...

Anyway .... hubby came home, and we went and visited FIL .. and BIL turned up .. and oh heck, we dashed off to the club for a quick drink .. ended up being two ..... when we got home, the kids were ready for dinner (it was ready, I cooked it today .. just needed heating up) and so we started preparing the heating up arrangements (nothing different to the usual really) ...... and the next thing, son comes up with the tray of Lasagne and says "Nanna's changed her mind and she's eating on her own cause your late"

Crap ..... no way were we late .. it had JUST turned 7pm, we usually don't eat until 7.15 or 7.30 .... anyway, Cam brought it all up again, and I went down and NICELY said

"What are you eating" and I saw she had heated up an old lasagne and some kind of vegetable mix .. and the look on her face ...........

Well, dig a big hole and bury me deep ............ it wasn't pleasant ......

so I said "oh, that's ok .. it's only just turned 7pm, but you can do your own thing" and turned tail and took off and came upstairs.

And here we hide. *sigh*

so ......... so much for our honeymoon period. I can't even check if she's had her tablets today ......... but I'm SO CRANKY for being lulled into the peace that we've had .. and I'm cranky that she's gone STRAIGHT for my daughter again ...

And I asked BIL if he called ACAT .. and no .. he hasn't, but there was a big mental health meeting today so we probably wouldn't have gotten onto her .. and he's talking of dragging FIL out of hospital on Saturday and giving him a guided tour of the Nursing Home as a SUPER big hint .........

and ..........................

not happy girls ........ I'm not happy. Fortunately .. I have HERE to vent and get it out of my system. My 12yo just read this over my shoulder and said "good Mum .. your expressing yourself .. Can I Join?" ......

Poor kid ...... she's the other brunt

Anyway ........ thanks for putting up with my ramblings .............

Hugs
Sally

BarbaraH · 04-04-2005, 11:36 AM

Hi Sally -

SOOOO sorry MIL is difficult again. Phooey, rats, and a few s**ts!!!!! Where is that happy pill??!

Okay, Alan gets to call the ACAT team. BIL has blown it again. BIL needs to be reminded that the goal for the tour of facilities is to choose one. Opting to return home is NOT one of the choices for FIL.

Yep, any of your kids is welcome to write, too! Stress and frustration about the evils of Alzhiemers knows no age limit and self-expression is good!

Many hugs - Barbara

LuvMyLilDoggie · 04-04-2005, 01:26 PM

Dearest Sally,

I'm so sorry you had a rough night. I hope MIL is in a better mood today.
It really throws ya for a loop when they're happy for a while and then something like a candy bar wrapper sets the wheels in motion for the trip to hell and back. Don'tcha get

sometimes?

Your daughter must notice how th is board has helped you. It's a testament to you that she wants to join us too. She's very welcome to jump on in. We'll welcome her with open arms.

This disease affects everyone in the family. Kids tend to fob it off (got that word from you and two Canadian friends of mine

). But it still affects them none the less.

And Barbara. I get the feeling that if you could, you would make a trip to Aussie and then New York and Chicago.

Barbara to the rescue!

Seriuosly though, you're a source of strength and encouragement to us. I'm sure that Sally and Martha will agree with me.

Take care and enjoy the day. It's beautiful here.

Love, Barb

"TROUBLES ARE THE TOOLS BY WHICH GOD FASHIONS US FOR BETTER THINGS."

Where's our wings???

LOL!!!

SiestaDrew · 04-04-2005, 07:52 PM

Oh geez Sally--the only thing I can say is ----hmmm ---- cannot say will be bleeped--but do do do know how you feel, everytime I have a good day--I have 5 sucky days to counter act the one good day.

Hubby and I had such a good day Saturday--it was wonderful--Sunday and today well went to "H" in a hand basket.

But like you said, Thank goodness we have this board to vent. I told my brother that my hubby was being an A-hole yesterday and he said Linda that is not nice. However if I tell you guys that, you understand. I am not being mean just honest.

Anyway, sorry for the bad days, my hubby is not to the point yet where he accuses me of eating his candy bars, but today he opened like 20 hershey kisses, lined them all up on the table and proceeded to eat them--oh ****.

Hugs to you, Linda

lovemygrandma · 04-04-2005, 10:04 PM

Sally,
I'm sooooo sorry you had a rough day and I hope things are better in the A.M. I know this is going to sound selfish, but whenever I have a bad day and come to this site and read your posts they make me laugh (not that you've had a bad day) but just the funny way you explain it. Lots of Hugs LMG