Martha H

I just heard from my brother again. He is furious at his son. They sold their house in Queens and moved to Farmingdale to be near their children and grandchild. Now that they are splitting up, it was all for nothing. The kids will have to sell the house and move away (this is his biggest fear.)

I told him they might decide to stay together, or the young mother and child might stay in the area (especially since they need A as babysitter) and their son may also relocate close to them .. if another woman is in the picture that may not last long at all (what kind of a beast - or other b word - goes after a married man with a newborn baby???) and the whole thing may turn out OK.

You are right that they now have too much on their plate: Mom, the utterly confused and addled old old lady, plus their son's marriage falling apart .. and there is nothing I can do except pray and tell him it might turn out OK..

My son went through a similar thing 6 yrs ago when his relationship broke up - this time it was the mother of his child who kicked him out - and I feared losing my granddaughter. But I have remained good friends with all of them, long distance but still - if I go to Germany I am welcome to stay with any of them ...

My new life here is working out beautifully. I love my apartment. I furnished it with second hand or slightly damaged new furniture, and odds and ends from garage sales. It looks lovely. I enjoy the peace and quiet of small town living after the big city. I have nice neighbors, and am a member of a library book discussion group .. no job yet. I think I am going to make it on my present income (plus savings) and am very happy. The turmoil of the Alzheimer Years is over. I am so thankful to B and A for taking Mom in, and so sorry they now have this new trouble ...

love,

Martha