Here's a Challenge .. time for a brainstorm - Alzheimer's Disease & Dementia Message Board

angel_bear · 09-16-2005, 04:02 AM

OK everybody .. here is the scenario:

MIL is going to respite on Wednesday.

The same place I volunteer on (on Wednesday)

How do I get her there and KEEP her there?

(other than drugging her, which the chemist said I shouldn't do because it masks her behaviour and it's not really the done thing to bring a dopey client in on day 1 --yes, I asked LOL).

BIL isn't here. We won't even go near asking "L" .. we know we'll just be let down. DH is at College, FIL is at the other nursing home .. it's all boiling down to ME.

Surprise surprise.

Anyway :

Monday morning, I am going to ring ACAT and ask if they can pick her up and take her.

OR

Send her off to daycare and ask them to drop her off at the Centre

OR

Take her myself and risk life and limb

Any other ideas?

Input greatly appreciated.

Hugs
Sally

Martha H · 09-16-2005, 06:12 AM

I like the Daycare option .. you can bring her suitcase later (or earlier) ...

BarbaraH · 09-16-2005, 06:19 AM

Hi Sally,

I vote for the daycare bus to drop her off and some non-uniformed smiling person (or a policeman!!!) escort MIL into the building. She's a happy camper on the bus and may be happy to see the interesting new place. Have her belongings there already and you be nowhere near that part of town so you cannot appear to be the way home.

When I took Mom the the locked unit, I was asked to tiptoe away and not come back for a week to give her time to become used to the new surroundings. I could call and ask about her but not see her.

I'll keep thinking about it!

Hope FIL can be moved to another NH so he'll tolerate it better. I agree with Wannabee that FIL must pay his way and MIL's way, too.

I'd live to see your new hair color! It sounds lovely. Was Alan surprised?!

Off to breakfast ...

Hugs - Barbara

Martha H · 09-16-2005, 07:53 AM

Or could you call a taxi? Call the Facility and make sure one of their personnel is at the door waiting for her? Make sure the taxi driver knows that he is supposed to take her directly there and NOT to the bank or anywhere else ???

M

LuvMyLilDoggie · 09-16-2005, 08:07 PM

I vote for the day care bus. I think any other way may not turn out well. MIL likes the bus. If she goes to the NH on the bus, you can tell her you're not allowed to take her in the car so therefore, you cannot take her home.

Hey, you can tell her you're painting the inside of the house and the fumes are horrible so it's best for her to stay there "a few days". It might buy you some time until you think of something else should you need to.

Love, Barb