Jenny's MIL got the biopsy done. Unfortunately the tumor could not be reached from the nose/throat as they had hoped, so they cut through her face. Now her tongue is partly paralyzed, which will be permanent, says the doctor. She keeps biting it at night. Maybe she will get used to it and stop doing that. Her face is very swollen. The results of the biopsy will be found out at her next appointment, Thursday.
Meanwhile her husband - the early Alzheimer patient - did not think he did anything wrong by not calling. He doesn't understand what all the fuss is about, his wife seems fine to him.
Last summer he was with the family at a lake, everyone was busy doing something else and he was asked to 'watch the children," my 2 grandchildren and his other 3. He 'watched' them all running towards the lake. It was way too cold for swimming, we were only there for a barbecue and to be outdoors. His wife yelled at him "I asked you to watch the kids!" "I am watching them," he said. (watching them from a distance, running into water ... ages at the time 3,3,5, 6, and 6.)
He didn't associate 'watching them' with doing anything to prevent them from getting wet, or drowning!
This is the faulty thinking of an EARLY AD patient. I therefore feel very worried when people say "My Mom can still help my Dad, she is only in the early stages," or "my Dad wouldn't cause a driving accident, he only drives near home, and he 'knows' ...." The question is what would they really do, what do they really think? Do they have any sense for danger?
Yet, I fully understand that you can't suddenly separate them from the real world and start treating them like a child. It is really a huge dilemma for the families. As soon as doctors diagnose AD, they ought to hand out booklets of information as to what you have to do and how to do it. But they leave it up to you, and each family does the best thay can.