Am I doing enough?
It's been awhile since I've posted here. My Mom, age 80, seems to be in the later stages of alzheimers. She now wears diapers. She stopped recognizing us a few years ago. Most of the time we have no idea what she is saying. This has been so so difficult. I do not want to lose my Mom! She has always been healthy and never had to take any meds until this disease gradually struck. I still have hope for some miracle cure to come around while my Mom is still alive and will benefit it from it tremendously. Although I am not sure if my Mom understands me, I do explain to her that we must keep her healthy so that she will be around for the cure!
Anyway, although I have been told that I have been a wonderful daughter to my parents, especially in their time of need, I still feel like i haven't done enough. (My Mom and Dad live together. We presently have 24-hour care for my Mom in her home thru medicaid.) I call them practically every day. I try and visit weekly. I talk to the aide/s to make sure they have anything they need to make their job easy and to let them know that my Mom is precious to me and I want Mom's needs taken care of promptly and lovingly. I take Mom to her appts. I make sure she has things she needs, Pajamas, wipes, diapers, tissues, comfortable clothing, her favorite music, etc. I recently bought my Mom a health food product that was in the news stating that it cleans out the tangles in the brain. I forgot the name but it is the main ingredient in Curry.
I wished I lived close enough to stop by every day to check on her, to comfort her, to hug her, to make her smile.
Sorry this is long... i guess i have been wanting to just vent. but... am i doing enough? Is there something more I should be doing?
I wish I could just buy a bigger home and have her move in with me so I can take better closer care. I imagine having a mother/daughter home... my Mom would have her own personal living space... right next to me and my family's living space. I would commit myself to being there for Mom every day and at the same time be there for my family too.
Thanks for listening.