PLEASE answer about my trip!
I'm new to this board and have gotten some comfort just reading your posts.
My Mother has Parkinson's and dimentia, and just last week her Neurologist's nurse told me on the phone that she has Alzheimers. I wasn't surprised.
My poor Dad is also very sick with Pulmonary Fibrosis (plus a lot of other medical problems).I lived with them from Nov. 15 to end of Dec. I finally went back to work,(I work 2 part time jobs which add up to 8 hours a day) but go over 3 times a day and stay on the weekends. My Mom is up practically all night and it has really taken a toll on my Dad. He is so emotional and cries all of the time. She just let go their 3rd caregiver that stays through the night. So now we're stuck again for this Sunday night.
My question is and I really need advice on this--
My husband has been a life saver helping with my parents. He was offered an all expenses paid, all inclusive trip for us to go with a group from work next Sat. (Jan. 27) to Costa Rica! What do I do???? We paid double to get our passports here on time because we procrastinated about going for so long. I am so scared that my Mother will "flip" out when I tell her that we will be gone for a week and then she might be in her "mean" mood to my poor Dad the entire time if we go! Also if we do decide to go, when should I tell her???? This has been so stressful for me besides the stress of caring for them, because my husband deserves this trip! He earned it from work and it's not fair to him! I know that I won't have as good of a time if the circumstances were different, but the home health nurse told me that I need this respite care! Please, what should I do? My Aunt from out of town offered to come for a few days, but not stay overnight. My Mom isn't really fond of her, but at least she would be there for a while.
Thanks so much,