Any tips for talking to the Doc about dad?
So here's the deal. I just moved in with my 82 yo Dad who has what appears to be late 5 stage Alz or Dementia. I'm ihs 26 yo son, by the way. I brought him to his primary care physician, who did a mini memory screening and detected some memory loss. He scheduled an appointment with a neuro-psychologist, prescribed Aricept, and said he thought we were looking at Early stages of Alzheimers. I have a couple topics to post on, but I'll stick to one for now. Is it likely that he said "early" stages to avoid upsetting my dad, or do you think he got the wrong impression based on the test results and the limited number of examples of memory loss I gave him? I didn't want to blurt out every embarrasing thing that my dad has done since I moved in with him 3 months ago, because it seems disrespectful. Am I allowed to talk to the doc alone for 5 mins or does that violate patient/doctor priveleges? I wish he was in the early stages, but he drools, lays his hands in his food without feeling that he's doing it, can't cook, can't pay bills, can't hold a "real" convo, can't feel if food is on his face, cant drive, occasionally wakes up an hour after heading to bed and gets dressed thinking it's 10 am instead of 10 pm (picture him pulling his pants on stumbling into the living room: "Sorry I overslept! Let's get some breakfast in our bellies!")
I'm hoping the Neuro-psych exam will give the docs a better understanding of how far along he is than the mini-memory screening. FYI, the Mini-memory screening including an animal fluency portion (where you name as many animals as possible in 60 secs). He "failed" the overall screening, but "passed" the animal fluency section with flying colors, which is also supposed to be the most accurate part of the screening. I read only 9% of persons with Alz can name over 15 animals, and he named 17. I also heard that of those 9%, a large portion were well educated/read, and my dad owned a used bookstore and read tons.
Anyway, thanks for listening, and for any feedback! You guys are great! If you have any questions or anything, ask away. I'll be checking the board regularly.