Re: new news
One more thng - if you do have to have her at home, investigate Home Health Aides. When I was living with Mom we had one for 6 hours a day to cover some of the time Mom was alone. Now looking back I see how foolish it was to try to save money by not having her for the full 8 hrs I was away at work, since Mom's money went down the drain for the NH and now she's on Medicaid.
If your Mom is eligible for Medicaid, they pay an aide, around the clock if needed. We had a neighbor in Astoria who was alone, mentally ill, and poor - she had a day 'nurse' and a night 'nurse.' All free, because she was poor.
If you are able to afford it, just having someone for some hours a day is better than nothing, so you can go out, shop, get a haircut, go to the dentist, etc. I sadly neglected my teeth for the whole 5 years ...last year I had over $3000 of dental work done as a result. I had virtually NO free time, my job (which I loved!), travelling to and from work by bus and subway, and being Mom's around the clock caregiver. Talk about burnout. I was so 'down' that at one time I was thinking about jumping in front of a subway train. Depression, heart problems, high BP, sleeplessness, the overwhelming feeling that nothing I did could make any difference.
Do as Sally says and get a back up person to jump in any time you feel that bad! Better yet, WAY before! I do hope your Mom can get permanent placement sooner rather than later. It is appaling that her NH can discharge her. Ought to be a law ....