Re: news about mom
I am going through exactly the same thing. My dad, who was the toughest character around, has finally gone into the last decline. He started choking about 2 months ago but we kept trying to feed him. He has had 2 bouts with pneumonia and 2 falls. The last fall fractured his ribs and maybe other things but he had reached the place, at 90 yrs old, where we were not going to do anything. He is in the best nursing home imaginable in a very tiny town where everyone takes care of everyone. I live 5 minutes away and go back and forth constantly.
I am an only child and made the decision 3 days ago to not try oral feeding any longer and although I have agonized, and am agonizing, over whether to tube feed or not, I chose not to. It actually honors his wishes, but my mother keeps going back and forth on this issue. Both parents lived with me and mom is still with me. I know that the decision not to tube feed is the right decision but my heart is raw and every minute for me is agony.
I have found help and support on these board JUST BY READING. I have never posted before. If it had not been for this board, I would truly have lost my mind.
I am praying for a swift release from this earthly body for all our parents who have begun the last goodbye and are soon to be off this earth. I also pray for you and for all families who are going through the agony that I am, and you are, at this moment.
There is just no such thing as being ready to say goodbye forever. Such a mixture of feelings! I wouldn't keep him here one second longer, so I guess what is killing me is just seeing him like this.
Release will come for all of us. Thanks to all on this board for being there.