The end has come - Alzheimer's Disease & Dementia Message Board

Jess22 · 04-01-2007, 09:40 PM

To all my good friends here at my strong board, my mom passed away today at 12;45. We have been at the hospital for around nine days and she had been almost completely comatose since around four days ago. Her kidneys stopped functioning on sat. morning and today our journey with this horrible disease has came to an end. My sister and I had been staying with her and she had just left to go home to shower and take Brian home. I was alone with mom and I feel that is the way the Lord planned it to be, he knew I had walked this long journey with mom through thick and thin and in the end it was just me and her. I had just finished giving her a sponge bath and I was talking to her and rubbing lotion on her legs when I said to her" Mom I think your going home today, and you will finally get to see all your brothers and your dad and mom and my dad" and I was just talking to her about what a beautiful day it was and I heard her make a little gasp and then she was gone. It was truly the most peaceful moment I have ever expeiranced in this whole journey with her. I know she was ready to go and I know her suffering is now over. I will miss her terribly but Oddly I feel sort of relieved. We will bury her on Tuesday. I have not had a real break down yet and I keep thinking I probably will or even should somehow but girls I feel so peaceful. My sister is struggling and I really feel empathy for her, I am not angry anymore or anything. Thank you to all of you who wrote to me and encouraged me so much during this time of my pain. My heart goes out to all of you who are still in the struggle and my praises to all because firsthand I know how hard it is. I will keep in touch, need your prayers in the next few days.
jess

seeingred · 04-01-2007, 10:18 PM

You are in my thoughts, Jess. You're right--your mom is now at peace. What a beautiful goodbye! Now, she would want you to take care of yourself. Rest and remember all the good times.

Christi

WannaBeFreeToRoam · 04-01-2007, 11:59 PM

Hi Jess,

I do not talk on this board very much, but do read. I am thinking about you and hoping that you will be at peace with your mom passing. She is so much better where she is now. Seeing all the people that have gone before her.

Do try to remember the good times and when you can, to make some more good times for yourself!

Take care of yourself.

Love, Wannabe

Martha H · 04-02-2007, 05:13 AM

Dear Jess, I am so sorry. But as you said, it was a good death and you were with her. Now she is at peace. Her passing will cause grief and adjustments for you, but when you think about it, it was a good allternative to many more months or even years of suffering. I hope your feeling of peace continues.

I made reservations to go to NY later this month. My Mom's time is coming nearer also, and I never know if I will see her again. This Board is still one of my lifelines.

Love,

Martha

janeslk · 04-02-2007, 08:44 AM

So sorry, Jess, for your loss. Your last conversation with your Mom reminded me of the death of my MIL a few years ago. Although she did not have AD she had lapsed into a coma following an unsuccessful brain surgery. As we waited at the hospital for the inevitable, a chaplain there suggested that my FIL and her children go into her room separately to bid her farewell.

It was one of the best things in terms of dealing with grief for her family. No one shared what they had said to her, but all of them felt much better. She died a few hours later.

Jane