Nothing I can say will make life any easier for you, but all strings are not the same length. My wife Joan reached the stage were she had trouble being able to distinguish between opening her mouth for food & putting a cup to her lips to drink. From that point her decline was quite rapid, she lost weight as she lost the ability to eat & drink .
From your post I think this might be about the point you are at the present time, dark strong urine. Although Joan wet the pad at night, She would go all day with out passing water. From about this time Joans abilities started to fail her at a faster rate and it was obvious that the end of Joans suffering was near
As a family My two sons and I had already decided to let nature follow it's own course, so sad to say Joan passed away in October, age 62.
So Joans piece of string was quite short, about six weeks.
thank you for replying Jon.
I am so sorry for you and your family...Joan was SO young.
Every scrap of information and experience helps me cause I am in that intolerable stage of "waiting, waiting"
I have financial decisions to make, and family to inform
its seems from varying replys I have had that mum probably has weeks, rather than days or months.
thanks for your post....I do have the strength (sally has been helping me)
considering yr mum, maybe I am being a drama queen re how long...none of us ever know for sure
my mum has a cathetar, is barely speaking and now on morphine, and bed ridden
not sure how her swallowing reflex is (it was checked in hospital by speech person)
but no reports from the NH re: aspiration
does yr mum have the dark urine output?
I know yr mum is end stage and she has held on admirably for months