| Re: Family Issues!! Why do they create more problems.
My family seems to have been permanently divided by Mom's Dementia. Mom passed away just this last December, but during the 8 years of her illness, we divided into two camps. Sadly. I lived with her, and was the main careperson, so I feel I knew best of all how she was really doing. My brother lived nearby and agreed with me. Our sister lived many states away - and constantly criticised everything I did or said.
We used to be close. But she could not accept Mom's dire condition, so she had to blame it on someone else. Guess who. The caregiver is often the target of other people's fear and denial.
She told me that Mom was fine, was not forgetful, was not unable to find her way home, the few 'silly accidents' with burnt pots and a toaster oven going up in flames were just 'normal.'
She told me that if I would make sure Mom drank more water, all her symptoms would go away. Or, if we would watch less TV. Another time she said I needed to play classical music all day to improve Mom's brain. (yet she didn't admit anything was wrong with Moms brain.) Later she said Mom was not getting enough stimulation, mayne more TV?
I last saw my sister at Mom's funeral and have received ONE email since then, no phone calls. Attempts to invite her here or go see them have been rebuffed. I feel that in some ways I lost both my Mom and my sister to this horrid disease.
Love,
Martha
| 
Family Issues!! Why do they create more problems. 
Hey everyone I hope all is well. I have some issues with my family. My sibling all six are just disfunctional to start off with. My mom is in stage 3 maybe 4 it's hard to tell. My brothers have nothing to do with my mom they don't even call her, my other sister lives out of state I now know why and don't blame her. My only sister that I use to get along with before all of this started no longer speaks to me along with her daughter. I just found out that my ex got to them and told them all kinds of nonsense about me that they are calling me crazy and I'm stealing my moms money and I'm this and that. None of that bother's me because I know the truth. It hurts because of where and who it's coming from. My sister honestly believes that nothing is wrong with mom eventhrough she just came back from spending a week with her. My niece cursed me out on the phone and said I'm exxagerating the situation with her grandma and I'm causing all her probelms. I went so far before this all happened to given her the number to her doctor who diagnosed mom and she still doesn't believe me. I'm threw with them and I'm going to do this thing solo I don't need them they are the crazy ones. My mom has finally asked me to take her to a phsychairtrist because she said I'm getting sick again to me. So I found a doctor who deals with senoirs and there issues to see if that helps her any. My mom goes through these phases when she thinks she has a young child and it's always alittle girl. She even associates school buses and toys in stores with this child. Sometimes she will go to the front door and look for this child. My mom is really progressing fast to me I see changes happening on a weekly basis. Is that the way this goes?
Linear Mode
